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*ommycooper
writes:I can't stop fantasizing about my wife having sex with another man.I've asked Her but She's afraid it might ruin our marriage.I think about this everyday. How do I move on ,or better still how do I convince My Wife?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2010): Here is something to think about. What if you see that he is better at pleasing your wife then what you are? You be able to handle seeyr wife were to get preg from this man? You be ready for that?
Or, what about if your wife enjoyed him so much, that she wants to do it again? What happens when she wants to have more with the other man then you?
Your best option here is,,,,,,just leave it as a fantasy!!
Or if you realy want to play this out. You play the other man..
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (30 August 2010):
Do you want to have sex with the other man too? If the answer is "NO", then keep that in mind before asking someone else to do it.
If the other guy is better, you may not have a wife to keep asking, and she may finally have a man who don't want her to.
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (30 August 2010):
 What will this bring to your marriage. Threesomes are notorious for bringing people pain and jealousy and leading to divorce. Write down a list of why it would be good for you, your wife and your marriage, then write down a list of why it would be bad.
Fantasy is just fantasy, there is no reason why it has to turn into reality. In fantasy everything is wonderful, everyone is smiling and everyone is happy. In reality, people get hurt, people start crying, women get up the next day and feel disgusted and betrayed and start divorce proceedings.
Maybe you should cut down on pornography and do more wholesome things together with your wife. At the moment you seem to see her as a sex object, a play thing, someone to act out your wicked desires.
Human women cry and feel betrayed by men who are willing to share them.
What if she came home and said her greatest fantasy was to see you in a threesome with two men, so she could watch some homosexual action. Would you be willing to do this, would you find it a turn on to satisfy your wife's desire to see a man having anal sex with you? Please update your post and answer this question. If your wife wants to see you in bed with two men having sex, what could she say to convince you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2010): Women are much more emotionally attached to sex. How do you know she doesn't prefer this guy and go for him, leaving you with nothing. You're not seeing the bigger picture. My advice, get over this quick because no self respecting woman would agree to it if she thought the marriage was worth something. If you really love her then stick to safer waters, there are still ways to experiment and spice things up. But not bringing in outside people. That never ends well.
Sometimes leaving it as a simple fantasy is the best option.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2010): i really DO NOT get people when they have such fantasies..dude do u have any respect for ur mariage? howcome u want your wife to get screawd infront of u while ur watchin..you might like that but like our friend said..do u know how u will feel later? or how she would feel about u sharing her? is that what love is to u ?
man get over that idea and take care of your wife
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2010): Your marriage is over.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (30 August 2010):
 Don't EVER say something like that again! "Better still how can I convince her?". Never act upon a lustful whim. This is not something you want out of love or compassion, it's something selfish, for your own sort of satisfaction. What about your wife? Your wife knows the answer already. Don't make her doubt you as her husband. You're with her to make her happy, make sure she's supported and loved. Just asking this of her is insulting, disgusting! I'm sorry for being judgemental but you NEED to get a hold of yourself and ask yourself "will SHE still be happy with me after this?".
I hope that helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2010): Ok...first of all... your wife is completely right...it WILL ruin your marriage and probably what little respect your wife has left for you!! You might get turned on by this idea of your wife making love to another man, but can u even think how rotten you would feel AFTER this has happened??
You are married to this woman...please do not ruin your relationship.Im not being judgmental...to each his own...but this is very dangerous territory.You are an adult, and you know it as well as anybody else...sex is just an act, but what about the emotional baggage that will follow? Do you know how incredibly complicated things could become??? You might soon start questioning your wife...who she found better in bed...what she enjoyed most with him...how turned on she was by this guy..is she attracted to him now..this could get downright disgusting!! For this one momentary fantasy of yours, you could end up losing everything!!
Please think about the repercussions and about your wife....before you do anything like this. Far from convincing her, convince yourself to get over this fantasy.
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