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writes:Hello,I am a 24 year old male and my boyfriend (25) broke up with my for another guy (28) about 3 weeks ago. We are all bisexual. His new guy is in an "open" relationship with his girlfriend of 6 years and they also have a 3 year old baby together. He expects my ex to be faitful to him (he is really jealous)and not do anything with others but yet he still does "things" *cough cough* with his girlfriend and even walked in with hickeys the other week. He says he is going to break up with her because he wants to be with my ex the rest of his life and loves him tremendously, but yet they have been seeing each other for a couple months now and he has not broken up with her. Also, when my ex brings that up to him, about breaking up and all that he starts to get mad.He said he has changed and is happier since seeing my ex and has even introduced him to his mom and dad.I saw him last night from a distance but it was dark and he looks like a sleazy two-timer.My ex said it is very exciting and new to be with him and all that but I just feel like it's a very bad mistake.I guess my question is how do yall interpret this situation.
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify  +, writes (4 September 2010):
 He "said" we might can get back together in the future if things don't work out with the new guy.shocking! he's being all friendly with you as a back up. i would avoid seeing him as he seems to have a vested interest in preventing you from moving on.this other guy wont leave his girlfriend, its just not going to happen, especially with the baby.why are you spending lots of time with him? you will never get over someone if you see them every week- that much is obvious.i think you want him back and dont care how it happens. if you take him back there will be no trust and it will mess your head up and probably make you very insecure and distrusting (which will have a knock on effect on future relationships). your best bet is to cut contact with your ex and move on with you self esteem intact.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (1 September 2010):
 Going out to the movies with him is only keeping your feelings for him alive..You need to separate your feelings from as best as you can if you're going to be just friends. In which, I suggest letting him go and doing your own thing. Right now by him telling you that you guys might get back together he's trying to keep you on the back burner while he continues with this relationship. It's not guaranteed he's going to rekindle you're guys romance but if nothing else you would be a rebound. Do you want to be second rate, and a back-up boyfriend? There's no telling how long you will be waiting. That guy will never leave the mother of his baby at least not anytime soon. What you need to be concerned about is spacing yourself from this drama because you're only putting your self in the mix.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for the advice! I really appreciate it! He was my first love and well...experience so it's pretty hard. He still wants to be friends and we have went to the movies a couple times since he broke up with me...is this a good idea?
By the way, my ex is always the one to break up with others. He first broke with with his girlfriend for his ex before me (which they still are roommates) They were together, according to my ex about a year or so. Then he changed his feelings for him and he went and hooked up with a few guys before he met me. We had been together about 7 months.
He "said" we might can get back together in the future if things don't work out with the new guy.
One more question, from what you've read, do you this this new guy will be trustworthy? I mean from him being in an open relationship and all. To me, I don't even think he'll leave her. What do you all think?
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reader, holliegeorgie.x +, writes (31 August 2010):
 To me it sounds like your very jealous. This mans taken the person you fell for away from you and your now alone. What makes it worse is he has two people on the go! He most probably is a cheater and can't be trusted but if your ex left you for this man it's his problem. He shouldnt keep coming to you telling you his problems. He left you but still won't let you go. So walk away and forget the both of them. They don't deserve you. Be happy and you'll find somebody new :) good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2010): Don't care about them!! It sounds like a whole lot of hassle for you when really you got dumped and you should move on to bigger and better things. Don't get dragged down by this all. Learn from the mistakes they are making, it's still cheating and I agree with what the other people have said.
You deserve better and you will find it if you introduce yourself to new people.
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify +, writes (30 August 2010):
i think your ex is a fool, but why do you care so much? your ex left you to be a side order for a married man. you need to move on because if someone thinks being a bit on the side with a new man is better than having a faithful relationship with you then they will always treat you like shit. i think you feel that your ex is stupid for leaving you for this new situation- to the casual observer that is also the case.
are you planning on taking your ex back once this new affair crumbles (cos i wouldn't)
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (30 August 2010):
Bisexual/gay/lesbian/straight cheating is cheating. If he is supposed to be exclusively dating/relationship with this guy only. Come on now bisexuals can't have the best of both worlds..You either lean towards one more than the other. They have a child together chances are breaking up with her won't be the easiest and he'll still have some feeling for the mother of his child so she's not going to ever really go away. Your ex is playing with fire on this one but he'll learn real quick when he doesn't get his way. Right now he's blinded by the infatuation.
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