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writes:Okay, I know- this may just seem like typical high school drama, but it's indeniably important to me. So please answer seriously.The background:I'm in 11th grade. A boy who is also in 11th grade(Guy A) and I are pretty good friends and I'm pretty sure he likes me, which is good because I like him. We have two classes together, one of which I will entitle The Class. Another boy (Guy B) who is in 12th grade is also in The Class. I don't really know him that well and I wouldn't consider us friends. A few days ago, my friend told me that someone in The Class was planning on asking me to homecoming (which isn't for a while) but she wouldn't tell me who it was. I got really excited, thinking it would be Guy A. As the day went on, I got nervous about who it could be, so I asked her what grade he was in, and she told me he was in 12th grade. After narrowing the other boys down some (the other 12th grade boys in The Class were all either in a relationship or gay), I discovered it would be Guy B. My hopes were crushed but I didn't let on that I knew. She kept on telling me, "Oh he's so cute, and you two would make such a cute couple, and he's gonna ask you in the best way ever!!" Plus the rest of The Class already knew all about it, so in order to not hurt Guy B's feelings, I pretended to still be blissfully ignorant.The actual asking:It was public, at a school fundraiser in which everyone from The Class was present (except Guy A). It was big, bold, and everyone was watching me. I was trapped. I said yes, to Guy B, who I really barely know. We took a picture. He was ecstatic and gave me a huge hug. It was awkward since I can probably count all the conversations we've had on one hand (aka- I barely know him). Then, he left. Everyone in The Class kept telling me how cute we were, how lucky I was to be asked in such an adorable way.Later, that same day of asking:He made that picture his profile picture on facebook and wrote a status about how excited he was. My friends outside The Class (who found out about the asking via facebook) wondered who the heck this guy was, since they had obviously never met him. Now, everyone thinks we're this couple or something.The dilemma:I don't want to go to homecoming with him. It will be incredibly awkward. We will have nothing to talk about and he's going to want to slow dance with me. I don't have a problem with dancing or anything, if it's with people I know, but as I keep saying, I barely know this guy. I don't consider us friends. It will be so awkward. The Second dilemma:I think Guy A was planning on asking me to homecoming. Now he probably thinks I have this "thing" with Guy B, when I don't. Guy A and I would've been really good together, trust me. We have the same taste in music, the same humor, the same hobbies, and we have the best conversations. In the second class we have together, we're inseparable. And now it's all ruined because of that stupid public asking me to homecoming from stupid Guy B. And if I complain about Guy B to Guy A, Guy A will think that I turn down everyone who asks me out. (Earlier this year, in the other class Guy A and I have, a complete stranger told me I was cute and asked me out. I confided in Guy A about the guy's creepiness and now it's an inside joke.) I don't want him to be discouraged from asking me out, when he's the one I actually do want to go out with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2010): tell guy a exactly how u feel! beter yet show him this page!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2010): I have pretty much the same problem just on a smaller level. this guy who I don't really know asked me to homecoming today and I really don't want to go with him. He is not my type at all. He is a bit of a nerd and I consider myself more of a prep and I am looking for a guy who is a jock, but still nice. Well, I said yes to the nerdy guy and I've regretted it ever since. I don't want to be a b%#&* and tell him I had someone else in mind but I really, really don't want to go with him. =/
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (30 August 2010):
 You and Guy A are good friends. Go tell him about your problem, but don't make fun of Guy B, that isn't very classy. It's good to keep your promises, so I think you should go out with Guy B so he doesn't get embarrassed. But you don't have to dance close, and can end it after homecoming is finished. Tell him he's a nice guy but it didn't work for you. Tell Guy A that you felt pressured to say yes, but your actually waiting on a very special person and your keeping your heart for him..
I hope that he gets the message that your talking about him.
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