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writes:hi i have a huge problem, i've always dumped a guy before the relationship reaches a three month period. I've been dating this guy who is the most wonderful guy i have ever dated but the problem is, we are reaching 3 months. yesterday i found myself shouting at him for no particular reason and i could see he was hurt because i did it infront of his friend.I found myself suffocating and i know that it is happening again and i promised myself that i will not do it again. i don't want to lose him but i also want to dump him. i've hurt so many guys before by just dumping them,how do i make myself stop and how do i survive the 4 month period?
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reader, 88jane  +, writes (11 July 2007):
 hey hun! i agree with the other posts, you obviously seem to have a committment issue for whatever reason. i think maybe you are putting too much pressure on yourself to try and get past the 3 month mark and making a big deal out of it. maybe if you tried to forget about this and enjoyed your time with your boyfriend then time wouldnt be an issue. tell him that you have never had a relationship exceed 3 months, he can help you through this. you are still young and shouldnt be worried about long term committments at your age--if you like him, you will survive the 3 month curse! your previous boyfriends obiously wernt right for you. listen to your heart and do what you feel is best!hope this helps, if you want more advice then mail mejane xxx
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reader, kit_e_kat +, writes (11 July 2007):
 First be true too yourself forget the nagging anti-commitment voice inside your head for a second, and figure out how you really feel. If you really don't want to let this one go or perhaps try and take it further you have to talk to him ok. Tell him about your 3 month problem and that with him you want it to be different because what you have is special. Remember you're not the only woman in the world who has ever had commitment problems. You have to ask yourself why do you always get this way, has something happened in your past? perhaps you fear getting too close. If you do know, let your boyfriend know your reasons also, if he is committed to you he can help you through this time and this can help make your relationship stronger.
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reader, love-him +, writes (11 July 2007):
 This is proving you are not ready for a long-term relationship.. explain this to him. Maybe it will make it better, for you, and you wont be so afriad inside to commit. The worst thing you can do is, stay with him IF you dont like him and are just trying to be nice. Becaues the longer you stay together the harder it is to leave each other. I hope i help, good luck. Mail me if you would like to talk x x
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