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writes:This guy i liked (who i dumped my boyfriend for) fancied me, but now hes got a new girlfriend and says he doesn't anymore. Shes so beautiful and is everything Im not, I cant stand to see them together and im so miserable at the moment (im on antidepressants for other reasons but this just makes things worse). what should i do? xx Reply to this Question
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (17 July 2007):
 Awww sweety don't torture yourself unnecessarilly, no man is worth that. Accept that he has moved on, and so must you. Give yourself time to get over him, before you start anything with another guy. As for the new girl in his life, well just dont go measuring yourself against her, She may be perfect, or she may be not, but it should not trouble you. We can never be like someone else, its futile to think this way as it is a bird to wish he were a fish. Just appreciate what and who you are, boost yourself up by surrounding yourself with good friends, fun times out, try a new hobby or just indulge yourself with huge bubble baths and ice cream. Allow yourself one afternoon to be sad about this, cry and scream and shout if you must (to yourself of course) but then put it away for good and go out and breathe in the possibility of what is yet to come in your life.Aunty Em x
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2007): Well, first off, I am sorry that you are depressed over one guy....remember he is one of billions of other guys on the planet, so he is not the last person you will ever be interested in....The best thing you can do is to stop comparing yourself to the new girl in his life and say that she is everything that you are not, if that is true, she is not everything that you are....so stop that train of thought right now, it is a dead end track.
You really need to occupy your mind with other things, like what you might be interested in doing or accomplishing next....and forget this guy, he is not worth it because he does not see in you all your beautiful qualities, so therefore, he is not the right person for YOU....Next time you like a guy, ask what it is about him that will suit you, what is it about him that YOU like, not how you can morph yourself into something he wants...don't be a doormat, be yourself, be strong, and you will attract a nice guy to appreciate you, not like this one....who is not worthy of you.
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