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writes:I've begun seeing a girl I care deeply for. We get along great and are friends as well. The only problem is I can't stand my family and friends dirogitory remarks reguarding her weight. I'll admit in the past I really wouldn't date a bigger girl because I was scared of the comments and being made a laughing stock, but as I've aged I came to my senses and want to persue my own happiness. I feel we have a really good connection with each other. My family doesen't really say anything bad about her per-say but makes jokes and what not when they see a bigger girl on tv or what not. Its mostly my parents who are the trouble here. How do I bring it up with them that I don't really appreciate it? It makes me feel bad. Reply to this Question
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reader, firstlovelastlove  +, writes (25 February 2011):
 I'm just one man but if it was me, the next time it happened I would just say "hey" with sustain (i.e. "heyyy that's not nice" or "heyyy I don't wanna hear that") in a kind tone but one they will know you are saying what you mean and you mean what you say. I wish you all the best.
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reader, Sad girl Sidra  +, writes (25 February 2011):
Avoid them. If yo watch TV with them then just stop that completely, stop going out with them. If they are smart enough they will get the hint and well, if they aren't ... you still don't need to bother coz u'v excused urslf.
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (25 February 2011):
 Simply tell them. Explain that you have met someone really special who you care about very much, and you dont appreciate their rude comments about someone so important to you.
I guess your friends and family dont understand how much you like her, so you need to make it clear that this is a long term thing and you want them to be supportive instead of being so rude.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (25 February 2011):
 Just tell them straight out how it makes you feel.
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reader, No watered down advice here! +, writes (25 February 2011):
 That's easy; Sit them down and tell them how you feel. Also tell them that as you said " I've aged I came to my senses and want to persue my own happiness" With or without them. The choice is theres. If they can't accept her and stop the remarks then you have to feed them with a long handle spoon. Big girls have feelings and they deserve love as much as a slim girl. Stand up for who you like!
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