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writes:I met my current bf while he was in a relationship. I had no idea until he told me. We both tried to end things and it didn't work. She came out here and I guess they both tried to figure things out and she broke up with him. Since then him and I have been together. The only problem is I saw he texted her the other day that he wishes she was still in his life. We've been together for 5 months now and I don't know what to do. Do I stop talking to him since he obviously still cares for her? At times, I've seen his mood change and he once said she broke his heart! I feel like I'm constantly trying to live up to what this girl was. I know he cares for me but I can't tell if he's just in to me because I'm always there. I personally love this guy and he says he does too but I'm just so skeptical! I've tried talking to him but he says that's his past but I saw this text and didn't know what to do. Any suggestions!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2009): I would have broken up with him when he told me he was in a relationship and was dating me and didn't tell me.
It seems to me that he is on the rebound, he is using you to avoid dealing with his feelings over his past breakup.
Usually, these rebound relationships do not last, but sometimes they do..gee that's helpful isn't it?
So my point is, do you really want to struggle with this and be in a triangle with this other woman, because you are?
Personally, I wouldn't like the drama and I would be movin on down the road. You really love him so if you want hang in there, but I wouldn't expect him to give you what you hope for.
Usually rebounds end when the rebounder heals emotionally and feels ready to move on with life.
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