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writes:I've worked for a mobile phone company for 5 years and from the day I started I have always got on with a woman in my team who is 20 years older than me... I have always had feelings for her and found her very attractive, she has now left the team and I am finding it very hard to go into work everyday, I can't seem to stop thinking about her at home or at work and am starting to think I need to quit my job to stop me feeling so low... has anyone got any advicethanksjpm
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2007): Ask yourself why is it that you are so obsessed with this older woman, is she very nurturing to you? Perhaps you have some issues that you are in need of dealing with, and maybe a talk with a therapist would help you process your feelings and move on. If you do not like your job, then by all means, move on from it....but if you make a good living, and like what you do, then stay. If she is your supervisor and is coming on to you, then this is sexual harassment, and you should speak to your human resources department about that, I am assuming you have that set up in your country.....your question is a little unclear and lacking detail as to the nature of your relationship with this woman or if she is married and that is why you aren't in a dating relationship....I am guessing that is the case.
It sounds like she is not available, and you are wanting something that you cannot have....realize this is human nature, but does not mean that what you think you want is what you really will be happy with in the long run....try using your analytical skills to shush this out, instead of just feeling your way through it, and I think you will come to some conclusions that will help you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2007): It might not be a bad idea. I understand that your
motivation is gone but you still need the money. Since you already have five years of experience and everything around reminds you of her maybe you should consider changing jobs. I'm trying to get over my ex and yesterday I read that changing our surroundings when we want to get someone out of our heads helps. Good Luck.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (14 July 2007):
 Yes. My advice is, don't quit your job. If you did, your heart will feel broken for a long time, and, on top of that, you will not have money.
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