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writes:I'm 15 well I'll be 16 soon and my boyfriend is 24 going on 25. Thing is we have never met in person! I was trying to contact a friend and I mixed up a digit in the number which made me send the text to him instead. After a while I found out that he was one of my best friends distant cousin so I decided to keep contact. Within less than a month he started telling me how much he loved me because I've been there for him (he has some health problems) yadi yadi yada... Now after we've been together for 7 months he wants me to meet him and I really want to as well but my mother doesn't accept the relationship and she'll kill me if she found out. I know how hard it may be on him not getting to see me, but he's dealing with it the wrong way. He's trying to make me all jealous and stuff talking about his ex and other girls who he liked and hanging out with them regular. He's hardly calling me these days unlike before when he used to call me like 7 times for the day. I also think he's not telling the truth about his ex because he's only mixing up the story. I really love him and I don't know what to do. Can anyone help me???
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2007): Sweetheart, boyfriends are boys that you see in real life and have a relationship with and a kiss or two.
You have never even met this guy, the fact that he is ten years older than you and texting you and telling you that he loves you is CREEPY. He is grooming you for sex, he is playing mind games with you, trying to make you jealous so that you will start pursuing him.
Listen to your mother, she is dead on right to not accept this "relationship", this guy is sick and a sexual predator, you are a child of 15-16, he is a young man with a sexual hang up, incapable of a real relationship with a real woman who is his equal, so he is praying on the vulnerability and innocence of a young nubile girl.
He wants one thing, a sexual conquest with a baby...in the USA, he would be arrested for this behavior...he is dangerous, stay away. You are under age to have a relationship with this man, he could be arrested for statuatory rape and stalking a minor....he needs to be reported to the authorities....go tell your mother how old he is.
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reader, oriental tabby  +, writes (14 July 2007):
 hi,
first of all,well done you for being so clued-up at such a young age!
i have to say that you are right in the way that he's going about things.it sounds to me as though he is trying to force you to meet him by trying to make you feel insecure,as though he needs some kind of proof of your level of commitment.in most cases,only insecure people would try such manipulative tactics.
i have to wonder what a 25 year old man would want from a (just turned)16 year old girl anyway.maybe he is'nt mature enough for a relationship with somebody nearer his own age and his behaviour would seem to reflect this.
you seem to have good intuitive instincts,if they tell you something is'nt right,then thats normally the case.always trust your gut instincts.
good luck and take care x
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reader, Shan14 +, writes (14 July 2007):
 Maybe he's just upset because he can't see u and he's just pressing ur buttons so u can go see him!!! I don't think he's meaning to hurt you but he just wants to see u really bad. Me and my boyfriend went 3 months without seeing eachother and he went crazy to until we saw eachother.
Hope I helped!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2007): If I were you I'd get out of this relationship right now. Seven months and you still haven't met sounds a bit sketchy to me.He also sounds incredibly immature by trying to make you jealous, and I find it odd that within a month he was already telling you he loved you although you hadn't met.Not to mention he's nearly 10 years older than you, and at your age, that's scary enough. Don't get me wrong, I'm 19 and my boyfriend is 26, but at 15, you shouldn't be hanging around 25 year olds.Just my opinion.
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