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writes: Here I am again....Please help me guys. My boyfriend dumped me at Christmas after calling a break. After two and a half years (long distance but saw each otehr every fortnight) he wasnt sure I was his future, etc. The problem is I cant get over it.I keep hoping that we will somehow work it out. I am trying to stay friends with him in the hope he will realise what he is missing, but he doesnt seem bothered. We were planning for me to move over there and everything. My life without him is rubbish. im doing everything right - went on holiday with all my mates, am going out, trying new things, meeting new people, throwing myself into work etc. Ive even been out on a couple of dates but Im so not into them. Ive got lots of friends ,im out all the time, a good career, Im not a loser. But nothing is right without him - it sounds like a cliche, but its true. Nobody can compare. I found the love of my life and cant bear that I lost him. Everything reminds me of him. I CANNOT BEAR the thought of him with someone else but Im sure that its happened already - I just cant stand it. What can I do? Realistically I cant see us getting back together, but I cant face life without him. What do I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2007): its really awfull and its only been three weeks for me, but every day i get a little stronger today, i am mad at myself for being so nice, is should have let go 3weeks ago instead of thinking we would be able to sort things out, I am sticking with my pride at present and I am not sending anymore happy text or sad ones he will only be saying to his friends that i stork him all the time, I know today i am worth more, and dererve someone who cares about me too, like i say it very early days but I am sticking to a clear cut off and at least he carnt say I storked him, men are aliens they dont think the way we do when they split up with them
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (23 February 2007):
 Life is full of hard knocks and can be tough. My advice to you would be to remain friends with him, that's really all you can do for now. When you talk with him, whether it be over the net, email, text or whatever, always sound cheerful and not miserable. If you sound miserable you'll come across as needy and he'll back off. Let him see that things are fine with you. Mention the good times and never the bad times but always sound positive!
If he decides NOT to get back with you then that's life and you WILL have to move on. If you're meant to be together then you will, if you're not then you won't but You'll be fine and you WILL get over him in time.
Eve
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reader, iagirl  +, writes (22 February 2007):
 I was with my boyfriend for over three years and we lived together. After we broke up, I went through a lot of the same emotions that you're going through. I even cried over orange juice at the grocery store! But then something happened...I started to feel better. It won't happen overnight or even in a couple months, but it will happen. Just trust that you WILL get through this, you just need to give it time. Take up a new hobby, make new friends, get out more. Life without him isn't over, it's just beginning.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2007): I am going through the exact same thing right now. Time heals all....I know you get tired of hearing that, but I am finding that its true. What is hard for me is that I see him all the time and he is trying to date someone I know. So, be glad that he doesn't live near you. I promise it will make getting over him much easier. You don't want to be with someone who doesn't know if they want to be with you! Good luck. Hang in there. I promise it will get better.
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reader, answers4u +, writes (22 February 2007):
 well am really sorry about what happened but in my opinion he is not good for you because long distance relationships don't normally work but i can be sure that when u get over him u will see what a jerk he is becasue he lost 1 in a million . I hope that u find love agin
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