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*andyo
writes:have been having an affair with a man who i taught was my soul mate.. we meet on friday night, booked into a hotel and had an amazing loving night.. i have txt him twice since and he has not replied.. should i just move on? its very hard to be like this one day and then just ignoring me now.. we live close to each other.. i know his guilt is worse than mine but why the ignorance.. what should i do, i feel abit used.. we have been doing this for the last two years and will miss it if its gone..
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reader, dapone 1  +, writes (18 October 2007):
 Dear Sandyo
sorry to say this is what happens when you have an affair,it sound if he used you, had his wicked way with you on Friday night, and now has dropped you from a great hight,i would not let any one do this to you, if he wont contact you then that is his loss, stay away from this person he is only out to cause you grief, and when he feels randy again tell him ware to go,you need to look deep inside yourself, find out what it is your really looking for, then make the choice and go for it, or else you will end up a bitter and self destructive person, get out there enjoy yourself and find a guy who will give you respect and love you for yourself, instead of waiting for some one who only wants one thing from you.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (18 October 2007):
 If his not texting you in this period of time is unusual, then perhaps you should try to get an answer from him. I couldn't tell for sure whether he's gone or not.
However, I would recommend that you examine the relationship. If this is all you want, fine. If not, take notice that two years have gone by and apparently you're in the same place where you started, or worse.
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reader, stuartb +, writes (18 October 2007):
 I suspect he started something but had the foresight to stop before it got worse, this is no reflection on you but things like this never end well (see my own story) a relationship will only work when you can be honest to others and yourself, when your cheating on someone you’re not being honest.
S.x
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reader, Lianna +, writes (18 October 2007):
Hi, I think you should get on with your life, he may even come back (men are strange)! in the meantime get yourself out and dating again and let him know what hes missing!!
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reader, kenny +, writes (18 October 2007):
 Invariable there is never a happy ending to affairs, someone always ends up getting hurt. Maybe the guilt of having this affair has just got to much for him to bear, which is why he is ignoring you. Like sexy says you need to speak to him and obtain some answers. If you don't get any reply then i would be inclined to move on.
Take care x
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reader, sexi  +, writes (18 October 2007):
 Hi
You need to speak to this guy then you would get the answers that you are looking for certainly. It is possible that this guy has decided to end yourlls affair. Has he ever not had contact with you before? If he has then maybe it is just one of those times again. You can give him time but then you also need to know where you stand. He needs to be straight with you, is he going to continue yourlls relationship or is he gonna end it? You have a right to know. Speak to him and get some answers, dont let him mess you around.
Regards, mail me if you wanna talk
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