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writes:I have a friend who told me he loved me and we have a lot in common . . . I really like him. I'm a virgin and he is not and I don't know if I can be with him now because of it. I wanted a virgin boyfriend, and I look at him differently for it, I asked if he has feelings for the girl but he said no and he was drunk. :( what do I do. Please help, I just feel he has done something wioth this girl so he is not, I can't quite put my finger on it :( please help thank you
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reader, Cupid_or_Stupid +, writes (19 May 2011):
 Personally I think virginity isn't just physical but mental.
I lost my virginity to a rape and, ok, that was different to his situation, but I still count mine and my boyfriend's first time as the time I lost my virginity.
Doing it for the first time with someone you love or really care about is SO different to just having sex with random people. I think it would be just as special for you both on your first time whether or not he was a virgin.
Also, if you really care about him, then his virginity, or lack of, shouldn't bother you that much.
Hope this helped! :)
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reader, bethevans +, writes (15 May 2011):
 Hi There,
well to be honest, i am going to try and help you see his point of view to make you feel better. i know where he is coming from as i made the mistake of losing it when i was drunk, it is not a good feeling and especially if there is someone you like after wards.. to be honest, it doesn't matter if he's lost it with her before, because he didn't like her so it wouldn't have been as good/romantic as it will if he really likes you and does it with you.
I know this is hard to understand, but sex is always better when you have feelings for the person, and just because he's done it once, it definately doesn't mean he's an expert so don't worry :)
Hope this helped!
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