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writes:Hi dear cupids I m 18 and I don't really have any sexual experience.I tried to have sex with a girl like a year ago but I had no acctual idea what I was doing and my penis couldn't fit in her. We tried it 2 other night but I still counldn't put it in and I only got a BJ for like 10 min which i did not cum from. Then she had to go back to germany (she was exchange student) we wanted to have sex week before she leaves. The last time I was giving her oral and I though she is going to cum but then we got interupted.Now this very very hot girl got like into me. I mean I cant belive it, she looks like victoria secret model. She said she wants to be friends with benefits with what I am really ok with :D. To my problem. We were talking on the internet for like 3 months about doing this.(we know eachother from highschool, we were acctualy best friends(girl wise)).I know she has been with other guys so I m really worried that I won't preform as good as she is expecting.I lied when she asked me about my sexual history. I said I ve been with couple girl.Now I don't know what to do. I dont want to be a bad lover. What can I do ?
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reader, chickpea2011 +, writes (15 May 2011):
 Don't worry..
Don't think too much, I am sure there's nothing wrong with you...
I think with the other girl you couldn't because you didn't feel attractive enough, you just tried to do for sex.
Positive about this new girl:
*you are very attractive to her
*you are very excited
Seeing your answer that you'll do it anyway the best way you can its good enough!! I love that you're so excited. From the 1st post and the second I see a huge difference. I like your attitude already...
Take your time, enjoy being with her, enjoy the moment, you don't need to rush or be aggressive... Things will happen naturally, you'll see! :-)
Good luck!
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reader, Fernando Garcia +, writes (15 May 2011):
Maybe you should be honest and tell her that you got no experience. And if not just go with the flow don't get scared. An extra lubricated condoms well help make it easier for it to slid in her vagina.
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reader, Problem.helper +, writes (15 May 2011):
Problem.helper is verified as being by the original poster of the question Well thanks for all the support and boosting my confidence :D
I m going to do it anyways. I don't care if I screw up or anything. But I will do the best job preparing for it
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (15 May 2011):
 While I doubt the veracity of this posting, you will do well to spend a good deal of time reading advice in this Web site's archives. There is a virtual encyclopedia of sexuality therein, though it will not ensure your success - the reading may hopefully help improve your word spelling.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (14 May 2011):
 Be honest with her! Then it will all sort itself out.
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (14 May 2011):
As any other thing, being a good lover takes a lot of practice, which you don't have.
I think that starting you sexual life with a girl who is interested only in a physical affair isn't a good idea. She is wants to be with you just for sex, and it will most probably be bad sex in the beginning. So I don't think this will work.
I would recommend you to start with a different kind of relationship. A proper girlfriend will have more patience with you if she knows you are a virgin.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2011): Do not look at porn! It is very unrealistic (from my point of view). I would say, talk to girls you have a good communication with. Ask them about their experiences and suggestions. Also, try to look for information on the web on how to pleasure a girl. Even if you don't have actual intercourse, there are a LOT of things you can do so she feels sexually satisfied. In terms of intercourse, maybe you need to pleasure her more before trying penetration. She needs to be properly lubricated. Use condoms and lubricants also.Sex is a lot of physical, but it also takes a lot of focus (at least for girls). When someone is giving you a BJ, try to concentrate on the pleasure you are receiving and how it feels. When you are giving it to her, try to identify her reactions. This will let you know what you have to continue doing or what she doesn't like. If you cum or not, just enjoy!Good luck!
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