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writes:hope someone can help, i can't seem to orgasam during penetrative sex?i can orgasam through clitoral stimulation (from myself or my bf)but just not when having sex with my bf?? can anyone suggest any advice please??
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhi, thanks to everyone who answer me, thats a big boost to my confidence that this is normal and lots of people have the same problem!! i will try some of the suggestions , thanks all
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reader, daletom  +, writes (7 August 2008):
My advice? Seriously - don't allow this to bother you.
You are like many women. The majority of women don't orgasm from penetrative intercourse alone and need some other stimulation to reach climax. There is a lot of material on the 'net as well as in the public library and bookstores that teaches women how to have orgasms. Seed a search engine with "learn to orgasm" or "women 'first orgasm' " and you'll get several million(!) hits.
Position may be a significant factor. My wife can reach orgasm in 30 seconds or less (if she so desires) when she is on top. (Laying full-length on me, her legs together and between mine.) "X" and "T" positions work fairly well for her - perhaps because I can see most of her body, "read" her response and apply the right stimulation to the right place at the right time. (Over 30 years of practice helps.) Spoon and doggy positions almost always require some fingering to achieve her climax. Missionary can work without fingering if we both put a little effort into how we position ourselves and move.
Can you have multiples? For us, a climax during penetration is usually easier after she has had 1 or 2 preliminary orgasms from fingers or oral.
Don't be afraid to use your own fingers while he's inside you! To be sure, this is a turn-off for a few guys (makes them feel like they don't know what they're doing), but I actually get excited to feel her fingering herself while I'm stroking.
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reader, jabey +, writes (7 August 2008):
Good news is you are completely normal, around 70 percent of women only orgasm throught clitoral stimulation, so you have nothing to worry about.
Some women choose postions where they can stimulate there clitoris they can or your boyfriend can.
So the advice is your normal, and it may be that you dont ever orgasm through penatrive sex or try didnt positions where the penis rubs against your clitoris . Have fun practising x
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2008): You could try different positions, etc. But there are some women out there who just cannot orgasim from penetrative sex, it doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you. Sex shops sell toys that your boyfriend could put on, so that while he is thrusting, it will also give you outside stimulation.
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reader, confusedinkent +, writes (7 August 2008):
 hiya, alot of women have this problem. Its not like it is in the porn films, you have sex and everytime is a garunteed orgasm!. no, in real life its split 50/50 actually. most of the women in the real world find it difficult to orgasm during sex and most of us dont manage to at all!.
I would suggest you try using a small vibrating toy placed on the clitoris during sex. you can also get toys that the man wears on his penis and that has a vibrating part on the area where it hits your clitoris ( I think this is much more fun as he get the vibrations too!).
Ok hope I have helped
Xx
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reader, Sophie-Lou-X +, writes (7 August 2008):
 Believe it or not, a lot of woman can't orgasm through penetrative sex alone. We're different to men. Obviously, the most sensitive part of a man's body is the tip of the penis (involved in penetrative sex) but for a woman, it's the clit, which isn't stimulated during penetrative sex. You could always ask your boyfriend to try stimulating you with his hands whilst having sex, that way you both get sexual satisfaction, but other than that, there's not a lot I can suggest
Sophie xxx
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