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writes:I have known this girl for over a year (we are in the same college and attend the same lectures) and we became the best of friends. But then she broke with her bf and she was completely broken down. I tried to help her out and we started spending a lot of time together. I fell in love with her, but didnt want to risk my friendship by telling her. I have a friend who knew it all and he blurted out everything before this girl. Then she asked me if I was in love with her and I said yes. She said she didnt expected this from me. I just reminded of the time we spent together. After about a month she came back to me and asked me if I still loved her. I said yes. Since then she is not talking to me. She said that I am her best friend, how can she do this to me ? My friends say that why do you love a girl that doesnt understand you, but I know she does. She has been with me in my ups and downs of life and I have been with her's.I took so much time but seemed to happen so fast. I dont know what to do. Some say that she gave me chances to forget my love for her. But how can anyone forget what he feels ? Please help me.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (8 August 2008):
She is angry because she trusted you to be a neutral friend and now she has found out you were lusting after her for most of the time you were together.
She is avoiding you so you can get over her. She does not want you to forget your feelings, she wants you to work hard to stop loving her and then she can be your friend again.
It is possible to move on but you have to want to and I don't think you do.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, hanz1993 +, writes (7 August 2008):
 No hun you can't forget how you feel about her because its a feeling and something trigers the feeling which means something will eventually triger it to go away again.
Just say to her "look we need to talk I didn't mean to upset you and you are my best friend in the whole world and I don't want anything that has been said or done to ruin what we had"
Then invite her out or round your house and talk her calmly through your feelings for her and explain why you have fallen in love with her and how if you could you would make these feelings go away but you just can't.
good luck and keep me posted
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