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writes:Hi guys, first of all Id like to tell u that im gay, im feeling really down because me and my boyfriend broke up almost a month ago, he ended up with me in very hurtful terms telling me he didn´t love me anymore, added to this problem i have a bunch more, problems with my family cuz i came out to them, I decided to get out of the country for a while but I´m still having all these feelings towards my boyfriend, I might be wrong but i have a feeling that hes been trying to contact me but as im out of the country i cant really confirm it, im so afraid to go back to the states, cuz i know im gonna have to deal with all these problems, im trying to enjoy as much as i can but the thoughts of him in my mind bring me down, id love to call him or text him when im back, but maybe thats not a good idea, he deleted me from his facebook, i was feeling better these days here but i happened to see his profile pic on facebook and it really moved my heart again, but thinking about all that he did and said to me makes me think things twice, i really love him and i wish i could see him again, i just cant move forward with my life with all these feelings towards him, please i need an advice
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reader, StudentOfLife  +, writes (21 July 2009):
 Take control of your emotions. Emotions are controlled by you, not by outside sources, you decide if you're happy or not. It takes time to do so and help is often required, I have a few self-growth book that could help you out.
Face your problems head on, why should you run away from your life? Will you do it every time something bad happens? Where will you go when there's no where else to go?
Do what you fear and the fear disappear.
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reader, AskSam  +, writes (21 July 2009):
 Oh dear, your family are a little traditional and closed minded, but thats not unusual, i live in ireland, and even here where the gay parade goes, the attitude in the country is still tut tut, But attitudes are changing, and it shouldnt make you any more of a son, they love you just the same i am sure, but just need to get their heads around it. As for you fella, try to meet up with him if you can, and talk things through one final time. And if you unfortuantly stand alone, walk away with your head held high, theres plenty more out there, only time will heal the hurt, but its better to know than to wonder. And open honest chat, and to let you know where you stand.
love and irish luck
sam xxx
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reader, mossy +, writes (21 July 2009):
hey!!
first of all it took alot of courage to come out to your family thats hard!! however i dont like the attitude they gave you, you shouldt have had to move out of the country.. there your son they should be happy that being gay makes you happy and thats important...
in my opinion i think you should go bk home and sor stuff out with your family your olny going to make yourself depressed f you dont hun and thats not good everybody needs there family.. sit them down and talk nice and easy with them let them see that you are happy this way and they hould support you...
secod hun you dont deserve this dude if he ended things so badly you dont deserve that!! you obviously loved him way way too much and thats y you are hurting soo much.. its going to take time but you will move on.. i dont think you should contact him its olny going to make it harder on you if he doesnt reply back and thats not good you will be in a worse state
there is loads of guys out there!!you will find somebody who will love you more then you will love him back!!
if you want ne more help contact me love to help out...
mossy xx
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reader, dior84 +, writes (21 July 2009):
oh girl. i am so sorry. dont u get so upset when ur delted off facebook? that is killer i haaaaated that lol. why did you guys break up was it sudden? i am so sorry for your pain i am going through the same thing. except my ex is a drug addict which makes it worse, being dumped for cocaine and whores? :( not good on ur self esteem!
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