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writes:i am in a terrible situation and would love to get some advice i have been with my partner for 5 years now. we have 4 children who i love very much. Me and my partner dont get on we always argue. Every day there is something im doing wrong i tidy up every day i Cook all the time i feel like i do everything she would rather just sit about and watch tv or something every time i ask for help it leads into an argument i have slept on the couch for a good part of the relationship we r completey different people and if i go to leave she tells me how can i walk out on my kids even though i said i would come and see them everyday and she told me she wouldnt let me see them and if i take her to court she would make sure i dont get the kids i have found she spreads things around her family about me that is'nt entirley accurate she lies to her own family which puts me in a difficult position cause i have fallen for her big sister who is like me in everyway we like the same things doing the same stuff we get along great she also has kids who i think is amazing even our star sighns say we are a perfect match for each other i am in love with her not my girlfriend which i cant leave because she has made it really clear she would make it impossible for me to see my kids i am always made out to be the bad one but i think im a genuinely nice guy which i have been told. I dont know if her sister feels the same. My life is in so much turmoil i have no male friends because they would rather be drinking and causing problems and im not like that im more mature than that and dont see the point in it all. My partner isnt with any1 because they always hurt her i just want to tell her how i really feel i know its wrong but i cant help i fell in love with some1 like me and wants the same things from a relationship i am really hurting in side and dont know what to do im not a bad person or partner or father please help me please
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reader, xanthic  +, writes (28 December 2010):
 Nothing can justify leaving your partner for her sister. No matter how your girlfriend treats you or how much you think you love her, there's no excuse. Even so much as considering this doesn't seem like a nice thing for a supposedly nice guy to do.If you're really that unhappy with your girlfriend, leave her. Get a court order to be able to see your kids, she's likely to comply knowing there are serious consequences involved if she refuses to let them visit you.As for her sister, don't even try it. There are plenty of other women out there that have something in common with you, find one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2010): I think the ultimate betrayal will be if you leave your wife for her sister. This will be totally cruel. Even an affair with your SIL is out of the question.
You describe a very 'horrible' person (your wife) but u made 4 babies with her and you are in your mid 20s only. Wow, surely something was right after all.
I do not know now why your relationship is toxic, plse try counselling. It will definitely Help you both.
LoveGirl
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni meant to say her sister and no its not lust i have already tried talking to her but it just leads to arguements yes i am with her but the feelings for her sister are genuine. i wouldnt change having the kids they mean the world to me
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni need advice help
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2010): hi,
i feel really bad for u. and i think its very immature of ur wife to behave like dat. from wat u've said i think she is a short temper lady. so u should tell her or rather make her realize how difficult it is to live with sme1 u dnt love. im sure she is scared bout her future n her kids. so ask her if its ok dat u takecare of the kids n she can visit dem wenever she feels. also before u do anything u makesure that her elder sister likes u or loves u. coz ur kids will always need mother
p.s- but more then anything try n sort out things with ur wife. if not for urself then do it for ur kids...
all d best
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reader, faenon  +, writes (27 December 2010):
 Im trying to see the genuinity to the question but with a comment from you like-- My partner isnt with any1 because they always hurt her-- it's hard to determine so are you with her now or are you not?
Only a fool believes star sign rubbish you need to get your priorities right has the relationship always been this way if so why bring children into a unhappy home moreso with a woman who refuses to help around the house or is it more a lust thing of wanting to jump into the sister in laws pants?
Either way you need marriage councelling try to get the relationship working again whats the reason why she is arguing with you for etc have you even tried to talk it out?
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