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writes: Im a 21 year old male who suffers from premature ejaculations. I dont know what is wrong, I lost my last relationship because of it! Take masturbation as an example, I dont enjaculate quickly but if I have sex I don't last 5 minutes! How do I overcome this problem ... Do I need to see a doctor, Help!?
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reader, NordicBeauty +, writes (20 June 2005):
Go to your local video store & rent a movie called Bliss.It's a story of a husband & wife who have sex problems.He struggled with the same problem as you & she was distant (due to other issues)Long story short...he saw a sex therapist (reluctantly) & learned to harness his sexual energy for true love making!If you can't find the movie...visit a sex therapist & they will teach you how to deal with your premature ejaculations
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2005): this happens to me also,esp. if i get good oral prior,i try to counteract this by thinking about baseball,or just telling her not to move for a few seconds when i feel it coming.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2005): One common problem is when you think about it too much. When you engage in sex and you're constantly thinking about it, you will undoubtedly 'lose your cool' and that could cause premature ejaculation.Another reason might be nervousness. When you're nervous, your body becomes very vulnerable (you get too excited). If this is the reason, I would recommend you try not thinking about having sex, and maybe start counting numbers or something.It might also be a position problem. Have you tried any different positions? Maybe the positions you've tried are preventing you from performing well.
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reader, Your big sis +, writes (8 June 2005):
 Just like everything else, you try anything new, it will take practice to do well. My husband didn't know how to hold back an ejaculation until I showed him how. And we were about your age when we got married. It is a skill that you will have to learn if you are eager to please the other sex. I (not having a penis) had to look in magazines like Cosmospolitan, Marie Claire, and even Maxim to help my husband. Buy a magazine which is aimed at women at the supermarket. There's a ton of stuff on sex, techniques, positions, all good advice. Don't see a doctor, just do your homework. In your next relationship, concentrate on foreplay before you have sex. Try to keep from ejaculating as long as possible. Your body has to get used to holding it back. And you will get better if you make the effort. Trust me, buy a magazine full of knowledge for women and you'll get an edge in the bedroom. My husband did.
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reader, uklouise22 +, writes (6 June 2005):
You dont need to see a doctor!!It is so incredibly common amoung young men, but not many know that because its not something they talk about often!All you need to do is relax, dont have sex right away with a new girlfriend because nerves can play a big part in this, also if you have a one night stand it can affect sexual performance. all You need to do is relax and learn a few deep breathing techniques-it will calm you down. also you could try using certain brands of condom or gels which desensitise you and make you last longer. I suggest that you dont have full sex until you are in a loving and stable relationship as you will feel more comfotable and happy.
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