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*onfessions Of A Broken Heart
writes:Im a natural flirt...Im 20 (21 Pretty Soon) Anywasy everyone i meet (I mean everyone) I flirt with my girlfriend hates it and i keep telling her im not...I cant stop i mean i only notice it because people tell me my girlfriend is really emotional over it...how can i stop this??thnx Yukix
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2008): Find a person that will let you be you - I did. Flirting is a part of who I am - I will not be made to feel bad for being a sensual being. My hubby is the same and we love each other and there is no issue at all. My confidence and our trust is solid.
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reader, DJ8433  +, writes (30 July 2007):
 It sounds like you are describing yourself as someone with low self esteem and need constant attention. I wouldn't even worry about relationships at this point, it's not fair to ask someone to put up with it. Figure out who you are first, date others, but try not to hurt other people in the process. If you think you're going to act out on your flirting, let your girlfriend go. Above all, be happy, but not at the expense of other people.
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx  +, writes (29 July 2007):
 You need to start thinking about your girlfriends feelings more and not focus on your own ego. Everyone flirts, it makes us feel good about ourselves and is often fun. However, when it is becoming destructive towards the serious relationships you have in your life, it needs to be curbed.
I think you are more insecure than you think and this constant need for the knowledge that women are attracted to you and want to flirt with you is what you crave, despite the way it makes you look or your partner feel.
You need to learn how to interact with women in a purely friendly way and learn how amazing it can be to have female friends whom you don't flirt with or cross the line, where there is a mutual respect.
As for your girlfriend, she's more patient than most! You're making her insecure with all this, as she thinks you don't want her and you want all these other women when, in fact, you just want to feel good about yourself. Speaking to someone about why you need this constant approval from others might be a place to start here, and your attitude towards sex and women in general may need some attention too.
Start making sure your girlfriend knows you only want her before she walks. There's only so long people will put up with things, you need to sort yourself out and think about what's important to you. If it is these other women, let your girlfriend go and find someone who can worship her like she deserves to be.
Good luck
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