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writes:There's a group of us at school, we're all bast mates and hang out but recently everything's gone wrong for all of us. Two of them have got boyfriends [Jo, and Fran] who they adore but they're having prblems. Three of my other frinds all fancy the same guy who hates them all because of something pathetic, [sophie, heather, elly.] Another friend is ALWAYS depressed becuase she broke up with her boyfriend 3 months ago. [Ellen] and my other friend loves Jo [btw he's a he we'll call him steve] but has a girl friend. Jo also loves him but is in a relationship. Basically I'm the only one in the group who is vaguely alright. But the thing is they're ALL coming to me for help, and it's too much, I can't cope with all of then pouring their hearts out to me as they're all so depressed, none of them seem to realise what they're doing to me by telling me all this.And they all expect me to be there for them 24/7 to help them with whatever is wrong. It's ruining everything for me as I'm a naturally happy person. The only person who seems to realise this is my best mate outside the group [James] as he's noticed that I've changed. I've told them to stop coming to me with all their problems as it's too much but they won't listen and I've got problems of my own, I'm about this far away from breaking down. I don't know what to do HElP! please
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reader, BlondeBabe x +, writes (27 October 2008):
 ok what you need to is have a day just to get away from your friends whethers its a weekend or just week day, you need some time to breath and chill out, a chance to calm down.
Then you need to talk to them all face to face and say 'i cant handle all of you's coming to me for advice its not fair on me, i have my own problems to'. If your friends 'James' understands maybe he could stick up for you on this aswel, honestly i think you just need your space. You can't handle everyones problems aswel as your own. . .
Hope everything goes ok, let me know how you get on.
Good Luck
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