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writes:Hi, I am a lost person at the moment. I had a thing with a male model we romanced three times with one almost leading to sex but I refused because I knew he did not like me. I still like this guy, even when I forgot him I dream about him and that makes me think about him more often. The fact is I am a virgin and I am tired of being one, I have not seen any guy I like or that likes me and I feel the right person to loose my virginity to is this same male model I dated for 2 weeks. I genuinely like him and I know this sounds stupid but I believe he is the only person my mind is with but sometime I feel if I do this and I meet the right person, I might be making the greatest mistake of my life. I hardly like people and he's the 2nd person I am ever liking in my entire life. What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2012): Omg no. Your virginity is something you treasure. Trust me you will regret it. Especially since he will be your 1st for the time being you'll feel somewhat attached to him and it'll be worse to get over him then you think
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2012): He is pretty? That's about as respectable of a reason to sleep with someone as "He is rich."
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reader, Biffo  +, writes (7 September 2012):
I think you know the answer yourself. You did not have sex with him because you knew he didn't like you. You mention "male model" twice, as though it is important. It isn't. You'll regret it if you do. Save your virginity until you meet the right one. You'll know in your heart when you meet him. If there is ANY doubt then he is not the right one. Best of luck!
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (7 September 2012):
 Ridiculous!
You barely know him. So because he is "pretty" you think he is worth having sex with for the first time? I'm sorry that is the silliest reason I have ever heard.
The fact that you have doubts means your gut is telling you something....
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (7 September 2012):
You've known him for 2-weeks, you don't think he likes you, and you're only 21 at the oldest and you think it's a big deal that you've only liked 2 people in your life. Do you really have to ask?
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reader, JustHelpinAgain  +, writes (7 September 2012):
You are right it does sound silly. If you just want to have sex at least find someone who likes you a bit more, a friends brother for example!!!
Unfortunately we often end up regretting many actions we take lightly and for the wrong reason. If you are horny get a vibrator and have fun with yourself, you can dream of his body if you want. Then next time you see him you can be quietly happy that you "used" him and not the other way around.
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (7 September 2012):
 Do not have sex with this man. You said he "doesn't like me in that way" which I assume means he is not interested in pursuing a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship with you.
If you do lose your virginity to him, please keep in mind that you'd be using him, and he would be using you.
On that basis, if you later meet someone to develop a real relationship with, one that would be mutually rewarding and satisfying on many different levels, you might well regret having had a purely physical affair with this male model.
Besides, you're only what, 18, 19 or 21? What's the hurry to lose your virginity?
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reader, Sinful_thinker89 +, writes (7 September 2012):
 If you really have to ask, no. You are going off whats good for the moment but not the rest of your life. What if you got pregnant? Knowing he doesnt like you in that way you should have more respect for yourself to choose someone who deserves you. Wait til you find someone who you can really trust to give away your virginity
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