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writes:Hi,I'm new to this forum and I only registered because I have run out of ideas. I am a 24 year old male, soon to be 25, and I work as a Graphic Designer. I hate my job so much that I am actually getting sick just thinking about it while typing this. My life is going no where so fast I will be dead before I get out of my parents house. I live in an area that is somewhat stuck in the stone age and there are very few options for me. I have recently come into some serious depression and every single day seems like a struggle. I can't focus on anything, I don't sleep well, and things that I used to enjoy feel so pointless. I did go to college for what I do but I feel like it was a huge mistake because I have grown to despise the job. I like to think of myself as somewhat of a giving, free spirited person so working for big corporations quickly drains on my sole because of office politics and shady business practices. I haven't seen a doctor for depression yet because I don't like the idea of pills. I feel that there is more to the problem then just some quick fix in a bottle. The only thing that I still enjoy in life is physical fitness. I dream of some day owning my own gym and teaching people proper training techniques and lifestyle habits but at this rate I will never get anywhere except rotting in a cubicle. Everyday I seriously consider getting in my car and driving somewhere far away. Florida, California, Texas, even Mexico. I want drop everything and press reset. The only thing holding me back is family so I sit there and think of reasons not to do it. Also a severe lack of funds but the way I feel at this point, money has no bearing on what I do. If I had to walk to change this I would. I am in no way suicidal but I often consider what the point is so maybe there is no difference? Anyway, I was wondering if anybody could offer me some advice to just getting in my car and chasing something that I don't even know exists (a better life). I can't function like this much longer. And sooner or later I'm going to break completely. P.S. after re reading this I realize it sounds completely crazy and people keep saying "but you have a pretty good life" but I guess "pretty good" isn't even close to what I need. There has GOT to be more than this!
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reader, NoShoes84 +, writes (22 December 2008):
NoShoes84 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks to everyone for your fast responses and your unique perspectives.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (21 December 2008):
 First of all, you need to take it easy. Many people have felt the way you're feeling. Life becomes boring, repetitive and pointless. Or so it seems.
I find it curious that you talk this way being a graphic designer, because that is something I would love to do. But I know that different people like different things, so I won't question your post. I'm not here for that purpose, either, but to help you.
You have pretty much established the point that your life sucks. Well, sit down and try to find ways to make it better. If it means going away from home, it's OK. Just bear in mind that you can do something about this, if you think what you want to do.
You mention that you want to go elsewhere. If your sadness or whatever it is called comes from the place you live, then traveling would help you. But if it comes from another reason, then you will simply take your fears to anywhere you go. Before you move, then, think what happens with you and why.
You do have dreams. Try to make them come true.
Now that we have internet and all that, perhaps you could live in a foreign country and still stay employed in the United States. That would be a nice thing to do. You would make money as if you lived in a developed country, but would spend money as in an underdeveloped country. Mexico is close to you and you could try your luck there. That way, if something went wrong, you would still have your job to keep going.
Suicide seems an easy way out but it's not. Life is beautiful.
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reader, Lib1 +, writes (21 December 2008):
 Go join something vocational like the army, job-core, peace core, teach english in china for a bit. I don't know but there are programs where you give your life away for a year to be somewhere else (usually a big city or an exotic place)and have some money and a place to stay. SO with that while you are in those places you can start looking for job opportunities there before your contract is up. Goodluck.
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reader, happy24birthday +, writes (21 December 2008):
 At your age, don't hold back. You will seriously regret it when you get to the ripe old age of 40 like me. I, too, struggle with many of the same issues as you. Many days I want to jump in the car and just keep driving. Try to develop a plan to get your finances in order so that you can move to a place where your dream has a better chance at reality. I would also advise going to the doctor for some meds. I had to do it a few months ago as much as I dreaded doing it, just like you. It didn't solve my problems, but I am better able to cope and don't want to shoot anybody on a daily basis. Your story does not sound crazy. You have much in common with me and I'm sure many other readers. Although I didn't provide much in the way of advice like you asked for, I hope it helps to know that you are not alone in your struggle. Feel free to write privately if you wish.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2008): A woman? You are young you could retrain in something else.
You could get a job in another town.
I think what you really need is courage and confidence.
Good luck
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