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writes:I don't know how to write this.. soo sorry if it doesn't make much sense.. There is this girl that I have been having problems with since the beginning of the school year, I am in grade 9. First year of highschool... it's been pretty tough, the girl was in my art class in semester one, and always bullied me, called me stupid, threatened me, talked about how I am so stupid some days she wants to take a machete to me, or wants to run me over with a car. I always came home and went to my room and cried. Thought to myself how worthless I am. None of my friends stood up for me. They didn't have the guts to talk about it in person, only on facebook.. and they would tell me how they felt bad for me. I told them not to worry about it, I have been getting bullied since grade 4 on and off.. I am at the point where I have no feeling anymore. They tell me that I should stand up for my self or they aren't going to do anything.. soo they talked to my teacher, and my teacher talked to me about it, and said if she does it again, she will talk to me.. and that was a couple days before the semester ended. She found out the day after, and came up to me and said, "Wow your stupid.. I don't bully you. Why do you lie?" Then I told her that I didn't tell the teacher, and that it was my friends and I didn't want them to tell.. and she got pissed off.Then it was the new semester, and I was like yay maybe I won't have classes with her this semester. Low and behold she was in my Science, and French class. So in Science class she came up to me, and said really loud.. "Wow do you lie to all of your friends?" I had no clue where she was getting at? And then the whole class laughed, and the teacher pretended he didn't hear it. And the class yelled "OWNED." And everyone laughed. I was really embarrassed. Then that stopped for a while, and then today in French class, I was socializing with my friends, just like everyone, and I was just as loud as everyone... and I was laughing with my friends. And me and my friend aren't aloud to sit with eachother, but we had a sub soo we were like whatever, we will be quiet, and soo she decided to come up to me, and yell "STFU you guys are so effing loud, be quiet for one effing class, you guys are so effing stupid and so effing annoying get a effing life." She said that on the top of her lungs, and the whole class laughed. And my other friends that didn't get yelled at were sitting next to me and still didn't say anything, and the teacher pretended not to hear. I am really scared to tell my family, or someone considering when my friends told, she threatened me. She is one of the tough girls who get into trouble, and I want this to stop... I am seriously so scared of her, and am embarrassed. I want to stand up to her so badly, but I am terrified that she will jump me outside of school, or do something. I have no idea why she bullies me either? My friends say she is jealous.. but honestly she has nothing to be jealous of.. of me, she gets all the guys, way prettier, nicer body? I personaly think it's because I am an easy threat. I just go along with what she says. And I let her control me. But I dont want this anymore. What should I do? My friends told me to call the kids help phone, but I am scared to talk about this even over the phone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2012): What a jerk she is!!! She probably has low self esteem and uses you to feel better about herself. I'm sorry this is happening to you. Could your parents have you transferred to another class? The teacher is being useless and she should keep control of the class.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2012): She is being verbally violent with you and this is VERY CONCERNING. This should be brought before on campus police officer and/or on site school counsellors.
Its way over aggressive and its an utter death threat which is indeed a criminal offense. You can ask to write a Witness Statement. Include dates, times, quoted words.
Alert your parents. Also report it to a doctor. You are now in a state of fear and concern and this can take its emotional and physical toll. An Understanding Doctor that reports every incident can be a good ally.
BOTTOM LINE: its everybodys silent consent to not stand up to her that allows her to continue to bully you, abuse you, target you, utter death and threats of harm.
In this day and age, such utters threats of harm and violence should be REPORTED IMMEDIATELY and taken seriously.
Her behaviour is a cry for help.
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reader, C. Grant +, writes (12 April 2012):
 Have you checked out the Kids Help Phone website? There's a whole section on bullying:
http://www.kidshelpphone.ca/Teens/InfoBooth/Bullying.aspx
If you're not comfortable speaking to them on the phone you can also post messages on the site (anonymously, of course) and one of their counsellors will reply within a day or so.
I suspect that this girl is treating you this way simply because she can. Some kids feed off the fear they inspire and cultivate. It's all very easy for us to tell you that you have to stand up to her, but it's the truth. There are only two things that work against bullies -- defiance and indifference. If you stand up to her and don't appear to care about either what she thinks or what she might do in retaliation, she'll lose interest and go after someone else.
You have to ask yourself, in the unlikely event that she really did decide to try to physically harm you, is that worse than living the way you are right now?
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