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writes:im 16. have been with this guy for 1 and a half years and we have had sex alot of times. now, he have abondoned me. i feel so lost and awful. i try to resist myself from calling him but i cant. i keep calling him and he's giving me cold treatment. i cant stop crying. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2010): I'm sorry your hurt, a broken heart is a hard thing. But calling him, is only pushing him further away. I say delete his number. Sometimes it helps when your hurting, to write down your feelings, in a notebook, it might help you to start moving on. Go out with friends, and keep yourself busy. I know it's hard, but you will get over him with time.
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reader, Auntie E  +, writes (15 June 2010):
 Part of the reason you feel this is way is because you had sex with him, you were intimate. He is now tossing you off, rejecting you and you feel used. You are only making it worse by calling him. Essentially you are inviting him to reject you over and over again every time you call. Stop doing that. Here is a little relationship recovery measure. For every year you are in a relationship it takes about six months to recover. For you it was a year and a half - give yourself at least 9 months. And the next time be more selective when picking a boyfriend. Don't have sex right away or just because he wants you to. You don't want to go through this again.
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reader, anonymousboi  +, writes (15 June 2010):
you have stop stop calling him . because there is no point he left you for a reason i know its hurts .. happened to me before. but if you keep calling him he will think you are clingy and annoying that's why his giving you the silent treatment you should cut all contact with him and maybe in a few weeks we will realize what he is missing out on , i know its harsh and very hard to do but its best if you move on because its not going be the same if you do get back together hope this helps .
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2010): By calling him constantly you push him futher away.
I know its hard but find things too keep you busy hang out with mates/sports/school.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2010): Get all the the stuff the he ethier bought,looks,reminds,made to and
chuck it in the bin.
Then go shopping with ur friends to by new stuff
And stop calling him!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2010): You are going to have to stop calling him. Find things to keep you busy, I know it doesn't feel like it right now but you will get over him.
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reader, oreides +, writes (15 June 2010):
 it's easier to let things go when you understand what happened as a lesson for later on. go over in your mind how you met, how you felt together, the sex you had, and how he left you- did you love him? did he really love you? did you have a feeling, did something come up that set off a red flag that you ignored? did you fight? there's something you're ignoring that's important to realize.
erase his number and move on from this. be more mindful of the type of men you let close to you, because i find that sex leads straight to my heart- and creates a kind of attachment to that person i mistake for love. good luck
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