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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I cant ccommit to anything or anyone, even when i try to stick to something like a new diet or doing work paperwork i put it off and find somerhing else to do. My ex boyfriend spilt with me because i wouldn't say i loved him, but i did for ages even before we started going out.Help me commit!My relationship is over but i don't want my future realtionships to suffer because of me.X
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (26 February 2008):
 Hey there,
what you worried about? You are only young, enjoy your youth, hell I couldn't commit to anything either at your age and I had an absolute ball. I dated plenty of girls ( some at the same time!) I never knew whether I was coming or going to be honest but I had a great time. Forget about your ex, what guy dumps a girl because she doesnt tell him she loves him, what a wimp!! count your blessings you arent going out with him anymore I say.
Enjoy life forget about all this commitment rubbish as you are still young, it will change the older you get and you will look back on these years with fondness.
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reader, jabey +, writes (26 February 2008):
when we are young, we often swap and change our minds about things, its normal. Thats how we learn and discover what we really want and learn how to stick to things.
Have a look back over your life, as a child did the adults around you commit to things, did your parents commit to each other or did they split and have other relationships.
sometimes our lack of commitment, can be a protective thing are you afraid of being hurt or let down, or afraid of not succeeding.
Looking over our childhood, we can find patterns of behaviour and reasons why we respond in certain ways.
Maybe you have not experinced love commitment, I dont know if you have then were you not encouraged to stick things out.
If none of these things happened then it may just be you are growing up and it will take a little time before you manage to commit, to stuff xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2008): Well, you are young yet and life is to be lived not to be worried about. Why should you have to commit to anything if you dont really want to. I think once you meet the right person then some steady commitment will come in time. I know what you mean about putting off diets and paperwork we are all guilty of that at some point in our lives. I am the worst offender, so stop your worrying and get on with life. It doesnt have to be by the book.
take care
xx
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