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writes: i cheated. I cheated. I f***ing cheated! I feel like shit. I hate myself so f***ing much right now. I swore ide never cheat on my gf, I did today. I cheated on her with my ex, who cheated on me! my girlfriend has never done anything like that at all. I don't deserve her, she is so sweet and caring. I'm a horrible person... god I feel so bad! what should I do? she won't find out. but I feel like such an asshole. my ex gave me head and I fingered her... when I was with my ex we f***ed a lot, yes I know I'm to young plz don't comment about that, and my current girlfriend and I dont. it was like quiting cold turkey. I thought I could do it, I swore to myself ide never cheat on anyone. I was wrong. what should I do?
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reader, aunty_rach  +, writes (4 February 2009):
deal with what happens!
you need to be honest for a start, cause she will find out eventually. try being a man and tell her what happened. sure the outcome probably won't be good, but hey you deserve it! what do you expect for cheating on your gf.
she deserves much better!
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (4 February 2009):
 Don't tell her and don't do it again!
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (4 February 2009):
 I hope you havent told your girlfriend already; it is a common mistake to think the right thing to do is come clean and tell the truth!You have the option of telling her - this is purely a way of offloading your guilt onto someone else. Or you can live with the guilt; and deal with it yourself.If you tell her; she will end it. Think about it, you will tell her and feel better because you have come clean. Then she will get very upset and either end it with you as you have hurt her too much. Or she will stay with you, tell you she can forgive you but deep down she will never trust you again.What you have to do is decide if you can guarantee you will never do it again. If you know 100% that you wont cheat again then dont tell her. But if you think you could go back to your ex again for sex then you need to come clean and end it with your girlfriend so you dont continue to hurt her.I think by the sounds of it you only cheated because you are craving sex and your ex was the easy option. If sex is so important to you then I suggest talking to your girlfriend and tell her it is important to you. If she wont do anything sexually with you (for her own good reasons) then you have to make the decision whether you can live without it.Good luck!
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reader, lotus mama808  +, writes (4 February 2009):
 A guy that sounds as remorseful as you do should know that the best thing to do is tell your girlfriend. You owe her the truth, and it is not fair for her to not have a choice as to who she is with because she dosnt know the truth. If you don't like that suggestion, then if I were you, I'd sit for a minute and ask yourself, "would I want to know if my girlfriend cheated on me if she did? How would you like to be treated? Give her the respect of treating her the same way. Lots of luck! And no more hanky panky with that dirty little ex of yours. She is an ex for a reason, right?
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