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writes:Am an 18 years old girl and i have been going out with my boyfriend for 3 months everything was fine at first , i could be my self around him , we always had a laugh , and had loads of things to talk about but now i can't be my self around him i close but there is so much i cant say but wont in fear he will think less of my or not love me anymore so we never talk like we use to and i know he getting sick of it and i am too.I love him so much and he say he does too but if it keeps going on this way where i cant be my self around him he going to end it which i don't want and he doesnt as well can you help me please i love him so much and he means the world to me. so why can't i be my self around my boyfriend and why are am pulling away ?? Reply to this Question
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reader, vixie22495 +, writes (10 April 2007):
 I have had the same problem with boys it takes me ages to open up to someone i have been with my bfover half a year now and he loves me for who i am when i first met him i didnt talk hardly because i was scared if he didnt like who i was id lose him but now he knows my deepest secrets and he loves me 2 bits it made me realise that i should always be myself. if this boy loved the you who was yourself he obviously has the rite idea dont hide around him have a laugh with him and be happy tell him your secrets and if he still makes you feel special then he loves you fore who you are dont waste your time being shy have fun if you arnt together forever at least you can say you and him had a great time and it was fun go for it and good luck
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reader, penta  +, writes (10 April 2007):
 You have to be yourself. The pressure to be anyone else will be exhausting. Eventually you will begin to resent the person you love for "making" you act different.
But he's not "making" you act different; how do you know he won't like who you are if you don't BE who you are? It's not nice to let him fall in love with someone who doesn't exist, either.
At your age you are changing a lot. You will be a different person at 25 than you are now, as you try different things and decide what you like and what you don't. It's very unlikely that this relationship will be the same then either.
Be yourself. Always.
Except you might want to use some punctuation -- your question was very hard to read. (Not meaning that in a nasty way, just saying...)
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