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writes:I can't cum when i reach the point of a orgasim i have to stop my boyfriend as i cant handle the feeling in my body. we brought a vibratour to see if i could do it myself when he wasnt home but still when i reach the point i have to stop cause i cant handle it please help me
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reader, eek  +, writes (8 April 2011):
 Im a guy and i Actually had the same problem as you. My advise is to just keep going. Once you have allowed yourself to let go and had an orgasm you will not have any worries the next time. Have an evening and spoil yourself. Have a relaxing bath. Put some smooth calming music and have a go in a quiet warm room where you can relax and be yourself. Once you have had your first orgasm you wont look back. :-)
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reader, person12345  +, writes (8 April 2011):
 This is actually a very normal feeling for your first orgasm. Some women also report feeling very tired and disinterested suddenly. You just have to relax and keep going. It's normal to become more sensitive right before you orgasm, it's ok to lessen the stimulation to a comfortable level. Your vibrator might just be too much for you at that time and you could try your fingers towards the end. If it actually feels painful, it's possible you've already orgasmed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2011): It will take time and patience, but the first thing you must do is r - e - l - a - x.I suspect the reason you "can't handle" the point of orgasm is because your parasympathetic nervous system is overwrought and fully activated because you're tense, anxious, and "oh my God, I'm coming! Here it comes! Can I do it this time?!" So to your nervous system, you're actually in a "fight or flight" mode.First thing, remember: this is not a big deal! Help turn down your activated nerves by reminding yourself that this is normal, natural, and you can just relax right into it. Try some breathing exercises to relax away the stress. There are many on the web that you can do, and trust me, they work wonders. Don't "go big or go home," start small. Very small, and work your way up from there to a relaxed, ecstatic orgasm.Good luck!
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