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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Me and a guy (lets call him 'guy') know each other through a friend (lets call her 'girl'), for around a month now. He found me attractive, and so did I. We met up twice afterwards by ourselves and last time we met, we kissed. The attraction between is so obvious. He is not like other guys. All girls say this, but he really isn't. He's been heartbroken, I have too. He is sensitive and considerate, a true gentleman. However, after the kiss, the next day he messaged me saying he doesn't want to rush into anything. I thought things would stay the same, so I agreed. But then he just didn't get back to any of my messages. He sent me a text after 'girl'spoke to him and he apologised and said he has been busy and also thinking and said he has a habit of thinking long term (rare for boys, girls usually do this right?) and couldn't see it in the future. But we don't know each other that well so this assumption can't be totally correct? He said he doesn't wanna lose me, I don't wanna lose him.I want us to meet again, but discuss things beforehand because it may be awkward. I always seem to make the first move and I think it makes me seem desperate. Not sure what to do, we really connect and I can see us being happy, but he has thought way too far into the future. What do I do?
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reader, Ven  +, writes (17 October 2010):
Don't over think it. He says he doesn't want to lose you, be happy with that. The two of you haven't really had much time to get to know each other, so you don't know exactly how much he thinks that way or how much he trusts in his own thoughts.
Tell him you like him, and tell him you want to date, and that whatever has been said can be thrown out the window.
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