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male
age
30-35,
*raig-1
writes:So iv'e been dating my girlfriend for 3 months now and we totally accept each other and we are totally open with each other, we really really like each other. The thing is it's been 3 months and she still is acting a bit strange about having sex with me. I got to tell you that she is still a virgin, I am her first boyfriend, i am her second kisser in her whole entire life, the first kiss she ever had was terrible. She also is VERY insecure, and i definitely got some respect for her, im not the type of guy which would say: if you don't want to have sex with me ill leave you, but it gotten up to the point that i found it a bit strange and i don't know exactly what is going on. We've done everything except ''it''. When my father is at home she just worry's a lot that we possibly could get caught, i understand this thought. but when it's finally getting to the point that i have condoms she says she wants to take the time, and not just any given moment but she wants a ''special'' moment.Im kinda tired of this whole thing, up to the point that i just don't care anymore, if i don't take the initiative probably she won't do it either because of her insecureness. I really don't know what do to anymore i guess it's all new for her... , I'm not a virgin anymore, it's more of an investment to her ? Looking forward to hear your thoughts about this
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reader, wish87  +, writes (17 October 2010):
she is a virgin..maybe u need to have a serious talk with her about sex..i think u need to tell her how u feel and why..make her feel secure in the fact that u wont leave her either way..sex for her is a huge deal...its not casual..something to be cherished and shared between people that truly love eachother...show her how u feel towards her as a person..i feel once she is secure in that fact that u care for her as a person..not just as a potential sex partner things will come into place
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reader, Ven +, writes (17 October 2010):
It's her body, it's her call. If she wants to save her first time for a special time, you either respect her and her decision or you leave because you can't deal with that.
But trying to force or coerce her into sex isn't something that someone who actually loves her would do.
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