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writes:If someone believes that their partner would leave them, if they knew a particular truth, can the marriage survive? Regardless of whether the truth comes out or not? It's hard to believe that a marriage can survive when it is being held together by a lie... is it inevitable that the the relationship will fall apart soon enough? Reply to this Question
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reader, Ven  +, writes (17 October 2010):
It's a tough question. The strict answer would be yes, it could survive on a lie, but I'm not sure to what capacity.
If I had cheated on my wife once, a long time ago, and I changed my ways and loved her and never cheated again, then yeah I could potentially see that relationship lasting on that lie. I don't know that I would call it healthy, but it could work.
Now if I was telling my wife that I had out-of-town business conferences every weekend so I could get away and chase my dream of being a stripper/escort in a gay club, that probably wouldn't end so well. Ongoing lies will ruin a marriage, it is only a matter of time.
In any case however, it is always best to tell the truth, so you can at least live with yourself.
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