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writes: I split up with my girlfriend two months ago, it hit me really hard. As a result of what happened I'm now taking anti-depressents and am seeing a counsellor. Although my counsellor has certainly helped me I just can't get my ex out of my head. I was (and am still) totally besotted with her. Unfortunately I can't 'cut her out' of my life as we are on the same college course and will be for the next two years! I recognise I need to move on but I dont know how to stop loving her. I thought it would be easy because she ended up treating me very badly but I can't hate her. How can I cope with seeing her at college and possibly seeing her with other men? Any advice is greatfully recieved.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2007): remember that she is ur EX for a reason and you split up because things wernt meant to be. im a big believer in fate and everythin happens for a reason. concentrate on your future and keep looking forward. u will find someone else, u just need to give it time. have fun whilst ur single and start seeing single life as a great opportunity, not a punishment. hope this helps x
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reader, gezzabear +, writes (28 October 2005):
It's good that even though she treated you badly that you don't hate her. If you ended up hating her that wouldn't be good for you, if you learn to hate someone then you would be making it harder for yourself to have a healthy relationship in the future because you'd be too busy concentrating on the bitterness that this one bought.
Even though she did treat you badly that still won't stop you having feelings for her, all you can console yourself in is that she didn't give you the respect that you deserved in a relationship and that by no longer being with her you are giving yourself a chance to meet someone that will. Maybe not instantly but there will be someone who deserves to be with you.
It will probably take you some time and two months may not be enough and being in the same course doesn't help but you recognise that you need to be over her and thats the first start that you've given yourself. When you're ready and able you can chat to her, just a friendly conversation and that may help and from then on try and do things for yourself, go out, talk to your friends about it, try new things. It may take some time but you wont always feel like this.
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reader, Mickey_Powell +, writes (14 June 2005):
 I think that you should start seeing other women and forget about her. Its Over!! You need to remember that. Don't get jealous whenyou see her with other guys otherwise you are gonna feel more low about yourself and may even do sumthing stupid! Wake up, go out with mates and pull a few girls. Be happy. Its always happy when you're single!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2005): Unfortuinatly you cant change the past, and to be fair you probably had a lot of good times but everything and everyone changes you just have to try and put the past behind you, and think about were your headed not where you have been.You obviously split for a reason so trust yourself on that decision.Seeing her is going to be hard but you will find someone else. just keep your chin up.
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reader, Your big sis +, writes (9 June 2005):
 Concentrate on the bad things she did to you. Think about the logical decision you made by leaving her. Tell yourself every day, you did the right thing. When you see her talking to other guys, tell yourself, there goes the next victim... Time heals a broken heart. You will get over it, trust me. It just takes time.
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