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writes:I just broke up with my bf yesterday. he's 32. im 20. We've known each other for 8 months. I broke up with him because I couldn't trust him anymore. after breaking up he called me but I didn't answer so he sent this to me:"I am very sorry that I talked to you the way that I did this morning. I am sad that I will probably not hear from you again after the way that I have been treating you.I totally understand and I just wanted to wish you the best of luck with your schooling and I wanted to tell you that if you ever need someone to talk to about anything I am here for you. Thank you for everything and take care! Crazy Chad" I wanna go back to him but I don't know. I'm really missing him right now I wanna call him but i'm afraid that I'll lie to me again.What should I do? How long should I wait?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2010): He's not trustworthy...
But he is "there for you". What makes you think he will be more "there for you" now, than he was when "you were his and he was yours"?
Really, guys and gals like to go away looking somewhat good after making a royal fuck up of a relationship.
But, if he's not trustworthy, then you need to keep away.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2010): What did he do to make you think he cheated? Id take things slowly if I was you? You need to know how you really feel before yo get back with him
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (25 October 2010):
 You can't let someone regain trust in a day. And by the sound of that text it looks like he already accepted it's over and is ready to be friends.
Contact him when you're ready to be friends..
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reader, knaixer  +, writes (25 October 2010):
 ok, I'm thai. And if your ex-bf is thai... well, don't believe every word he said. Don't imagine anything from those text. Try looking at what he has done. Men speak better with action than words. And I know a lot of us, guys, use words without even knowing what it meant. So don't get so attach to his words, ok?
Btw, women are really weak(esp. young&virgin) Don't just follow what you want cuz that will cause you a lot more pain later. Don't try to be logical either, cuz women are not really good at that. You need your friend for help. Tell them about your story and current state. They will know what to do better than you :)
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reader, raiders +, writes (25 October 2010):
 You broke up with him for a reason and before you call him asking him back think on the reason you dumped him in the first place. People always break up for a reason so I suggest you follow your gut feeling and that feeling was for you to call it quits leave him, and start fresh with someone you can trust.
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (25 October 2010):
 Now wait just a minute!
YOU broke up with him yesterday because you said he isn't trusworthy, and now you want him back?!
You simply can not go messing around like this! One moment you want him out of your life; the very next minute you want him back. Your are neither respecting the decision you made - which, I point out - was for a very good, sound reason - i.e., you can't trust him. If you try to go back to him you're only going to confuse the heck out of him and cause him to feel YOU can't be trusted, furthermore, that you have no confidence/self-respect in your own judgement!
Having said all this, I'll now say that its natural you'd miss having him around. He was part of your life, and an important part, for eight months after all. No way it won't be painful for you.]
Trust is one of the most important "ingredients" in a relationship, you know. If its missing then that's a serious matter.
I'm sorry, but you really need to stick to your decision to end it and just put up with your discomfort. Don't jump immediately into dating someone else, but do think about what went wrong with this relationship and learn from it.
Maybe get together and do some fun things with your friends, or get into activities you enjoy and which will help take your mind off what has happened.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (25 October 2010):
 You should wait till these feelings pass and you can look at this rationally. It is natural to regret a break up after it's done, but it's usually bad news if you get back together. You broke up for a reason. That will not have changed in the short time you've been apart.
If you choose to reply, a simple thank you would be all you should do. This was a closure message from him. It's time for you to seek out your own closure.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2010): he obviously thinks of you highly to send you a msg like that, i suggest callinghim and asking him bcak .goodluck
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