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writes:My boyfriend and I just broke up we were together for almost three years. Although both of us know it was for the best it still hurts a lot. He was very cold about it which doesn't make me feel better about anything and even brought up points that I was the only thing in his life that was making him happy and felt worth living for. That alone scares me but, not into going back into a relationship with a guy who was so emotionally and physically not there for me.What can I expect during this period of time after my break up. I want to avoid talking to him but, he needs someone there for him to make sure he doesn't kill himself. I'm in a very strange situation and it scares me a lot. I just am very confused right now on how to take everything in and how to handle it. Any advice?
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reader, sammy1986  +, writes (30 June 2011):
i have been in exactly the same situation with my ex who i was with for 3 years the best thing to do is break off communication completely my ex used to say the exact same things to me too i think they just say it so that you stay with them to make you feel guilty im sure that if you break contact with him he will be fine men like this are selfish and immature
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reader, SweetSmoochy +, writes (30 June 2011):
 Oh boy. I know how this feels.
First thing you need to do is stop taking responsibilty for his emotional health. It's not your job, nor anyone else's job, to make him feel better. It's his, and he is the only one who can do it. Noone but him will ever be able to.
I've been in this situation with friends, family members, and a boyfriend. This kind of relationship is a black hole that will suck all the light and life out of you without ever getting any better or giving anything back. I know how hard this is, believe me I do! but you have GOT to get out of this situation completely. You can't be his emotional support, you can't be the one keeping him from killing himself, it will tear you apart. He needs to seek professional help and to help himself, not to ask you to fix him when you can't. So, tell him that, and walk away.
You deserve a healthy life, not to be fed off of. This is not your fault.
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reader, GeeGee255 +, writes (30 June 2011):
 The sooner you separate fro him physically and emotionally, the faster you both will heal from the breakup. Don't let him use guilt to prolong your pain and keep you tied to him. It's over and he needs to move on. You both do!
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