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writes:hey peoplle just need some help pllzzz someone.... well basically about 6 months ago i started getting to know this guy... everything was great when we were together only problem was he wouldnt commit to me as he wasnt ready as he had only recently finished with his ex... the worse thing was that we were slightly physical too... (not sex coz im a firm believer of no se before marriage but we did other things)anyway we carried on the way we were for about 6 months uno not in a relationship but just fooling around and that... it then got to a stage were i began to think im better then that making me give him an ultimatom... either get with me or let me move on... he tried to persuade me not to leave but i had made my mind up... he didnt step up so i left him to it with no contact at all... hes tried calling txting facebooking and everything... its only been 3days since i decided but now hes sayin he's ready... he said in these 3days hes felt like he has really lost someone so close to him and says hes now ready to be in a relationship...im not sure whether to give him a chance or not... could he be bullshitting just to keep me sweet and get whatever physicalness hes getting... he insists that if he wanted the physical stuff he would just go for someone who would give it to him... but when i am with him yhh its great and that but sometimes it does feel that its just about getting phisical... as in we will go out the whole day do lots of activeties and then at the end it would just end up us fooling around... to be honest im not sure what to do... can someone help me plllleeaasseeee
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (23 July 2008):
 Hi
If he's not getting the full sex, then he could well be genuine. Like he said, he could go find it somewhere else.
It may well be true that after you ended things, it made him realise how much he likes you. Its common for people to give someone ultimatums. Yours might well of paid off. Thats the outcome most people are looking for when they do that after all?
Maybe give him a chance. If you're not giving him the sex, it must be more than that he's looking for i would say.
C xxxxx
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