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*njoimx
writes:I made a huge mistake!I am really really in like with this girl (she is awesome its only been two months dating). We have been having a great time, great sex, getting really close.The problem is communication. She ignores me sometimes when we are out with her friends. I get bummed and usually just leave, because honestly I just want to spend time with her, and she is paying more attention to her girlfriends, or sometimes other guys. So anyway, this last week, we were out at some bar playing pool. One of her guy friends was with us, and we met up with her best girlfriend who was playing pool with a bunch of rowdy guys. So anyway, mid pool game, she ditches me for her friends game, leaving me playing with a bunch of retards. So after a few beers, I walk in to her and say "Im leaving, want a ride?" to which she says "No, ill just get a ride with my friend here". Fine....I go home and pass out. We dont talk for the next day. The following day we had big plans to go climbing and clubbing in a nearby city. She completely blows me off, ignoring my calls all morning untill 11 am, too late to leave. She says "Oh i was stressed and feeling a little sick, sorry to ditch out on you, I'll call you later. Click." So I call her back and say dont bother, I am over this.So I broke up with her out of anger, but I really still love her. Later that day i was all depressed, actually crying. She means the world to me. I call her back like a fool, and beg her to forgive me. But its too late, she agrees that we are done. Now I feel like she was saying this as a result of her girlfriends advice. I know she really likes me, I am sure she is tired of my inconsistency, but really I am just trying to exert my independence and self worth by showing her i wont put up with her ignoring me.It sounds F'd up but every other part of our relationship is great. My question is...should I text her now, two days later, asserting again how much she means to me, and how sorry I am for not communicating like an adult, and see if we can talk and work things out? Or should I respect her unconvincing text that she agreed with me, that we are done.?Thanks alot!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2009): I think that cummunications is the most important thing in any relationship,its the foundation.If only ones building up the other,and its not both ways,just sex its not much of arelationship.I say text her that its been building up to this b/c of her parshally and you for not jumping into the conversations that come up with her friends.If her frieds are mostly all single try to meet other people who are dating,if you get back with her.I think though If this continues with no communication do you really wont to be with her?Lean that your at falt for being so dumb of braking up with her and it was only out anger about her blowing you off at differen't accations, and the lack of talking.Tell her that you really love her and care about her and that theres an emty void in your life without her.I don't know if you read the christain bible but it talks about in one of the scriptures about a wife being a ruby to a man,priceless.Is she your ruby in your eyes or is she just a plain treanket to you that you'd throw away.I don't know you think about it.
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reader, enjoimx +, writes (3 March 2009):
enjoimx is verified as being by the original poster of the question One more thing!On one other occasion, I left her from a concert in town unexpectedly when I was feeling ignored. I aapologized the next day and she told me "not to do that anymore" because apparently it hurt her.Well, I did it again, like a dumbass, and now I regret it.I really like this girl alot, and dont want to lose her, but am afraid we are expecting different things from each other that maybe we both cannot provide.Thanks
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