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writes:My boyfriend and I just recently started having sex and everytime we do, I end up bleeding! I thought it was normal the first time but now I'm starting to think there's something wrong with me because I always start bleeding whenever we try to have sex or if he tries to finger me. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2010): I have the same prob the 1st time me and my boyfriend has sex i was bleeding after i was like alright that fine okay he popped my cherry or w.e that's cool.. and no i had sex b4 i jsut havent has sex over 2years, but we had sex 3 times already and i still bleed.And then after i get really bad pains the next day in my stomach... Ugh FML...
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2010): I have the same prob the 1st time me and my boyfriend has sex i was bleeding after i was like alright that fine okay he popped my cherry or w.e that's cool.. and no i had sex b4 i jsut havent has sex over 2years, but we had sex 3 times already and i still bleed.And then after i get really bad pains the next day in my stomach... Ugh FML...
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2007): hi.. im on here looking for the same answer as you
im just gonna let you know, youre not alone
i bleed almost everytime i have sex with my boyfriend, but not when he fingers me. its like a watery pinky red... i think im going to ask my doctor even though that might be weird... cause some peoples answers on here say scary things
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reader, DIE-romantic.  +, writes (24 July 2007):
 I agree with LauraE maybe it happened too fast? Perhaps talk to your GP or something about it, then he can tell you whats wrong and what can be done about it.
:) Good Luck xxxx
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reader, LauraE +, writes (20 July 2007):
Because you only recently started having sex, the most likely reason is that the first time you were not quite patient enough, and you got a tiny tear in the opening. Then if you do it again very soon, it hasn't had time to completely heal and it opens up again. Could you try going without penetrative sex for a week or so? Then when you start again, take it really slowly, loads of KY jelly and foreplay. If it still happens, see your doctor.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2007): There was one incorrect mention about using oil based lubricant. DO NOT USE OIL BASED LUBICRANTS WITH CONDOMS unless it says so. WATERBASED LUBICRANTS SHOULD ONLY BE USED WITH THE NORMAL LATEX CONDOMS, E.G. KY JELLY.
THIS IS IMPORTANT.
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reader, leonard j.Douglas  +, writes (19 July 2007):
Just to be on the safe side you should see a Dr. However your bleeding could be caused by a poor sexual technique. By this I mean,all women's bodies need to have a sexual warm-up, (Foreplay-lots of hand and lip stimulation to the whole body) before penile-vaginal-intercourse ever takes place. Without that Foreplay, Your vagina will be unopened and dry. And it hasn't yet produced the natural lubricant that is neede to protects your vagina from dry penile stroking. And even then your vagina can use some help when a man's penis comes a calling. You should be using a good lubricant when engaging in intercourse,even a woman's natural vaginal lubrication isn't adequate for any prolonged vaginal stroking. The lubricant should be oil-based, (not water-based). Here are two good lubricants that you might like to keep in mind, Petroleum Jelly, Vaseline, is a little hard to wash off being as it is greasy. My Sex Bible says that if you can find Unscented Albolene Liquifying Cleanser, (makeup remover). It's the best, sensuous, and long lasting lubricant you'll find for your vaginal protection. How to use: You just need to coat your outer and inner vaginal lips with the lubricant and a little way down into your vagina. And the lubricant can help you from getting sore with any prolonged vaginal stroking. Do hope that this has been helpful to you and your bf. Enjoy your relationship and your togetherness.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2007): It could be that the hymen wasn't completly broken and it will take several more contacts until it is. It can also happen if the lubrication was insufficient, your partner was too rough, or his fingernails too long and so forth. In any case, your doctor will tell you if your worries are justified or not. All the best.
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reader, rockelle +, writes (19 July 2007):
 You should go to your gyn because the bleeding ould be a sign of a problem or it could be nothing either way check it out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2007): My wife has this same problem. She bleeds slightly most of the time after we have sex. She has a condition though. I dont know what it is called, but the inner linings of her vaginal walls are very thin. We went to her gynecologist awhile back and she gave my wife some medicine and it helped. Now it is coming back again.
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