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writes:*I want to preface this article by saying I do not condone nor do I oppose the dating of under age women/men, unless of course we are talking about molestation in which case you can burn in hell.* I often time hear people say "I really like this guy/girl... but he/she is little older". Sometimes people feel like this can be an issue and so I think it should be addressed. The younger you are the more the age difference is going to count. The older you get the more mature you are and age becomes less of an important factor (unless you are one of those men/women who never grew up). But I feel like a good rule of thumb is 3 years down, 3 years up. The reason I think this is a good rule of thumb is because there is very big difference in the maturity of a 20 year old and a 16 year old as well as a 25 year old and a 21 year old. Of course this little method gets a little squirly when dealing with a 19 year old and a 16 year old and other bordering age gaps. In this case the most important thing is using your best judgement. And taking the time to be understanding and patient. If your older do not pressure things, and if you are younger understand that the coming and going of relationships are natural. Be safe out there crazies. Reply to this Article
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2009): I'm 15, and my boyfriend is 20...but he loves and respects me, we have been through alot together.
Also, with the sex thing...its HIM who refuses to have full intercourse with me until I'm legal at 16.
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reader, gayboyalex  +, writes (25 December 2009):
I'm 15, and my boyfriend is 20...but he loves and respects me, we have been through alot together.
Also, with the sex thing...its HIM who refuses to have full intercourse with me until I'm legal at 16.
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reader, CellarDoor89 +, writes (15 December 2009):
CellarDoor89 is verified as being by the original poster of the question So I guess I should rephrase this a little Californiagirl. Im in no way saying "This is the way it should be!" or "It will ONLY work if you follow these rules!" I absolutly agree that as you get older age becomes less and less of a difference and I think I put that in the article. However with that said I simple think that 3 years down 3 years up is a good rule of thumb if you want to be on the same maturity level with your partner. Every individual is different and is going to mature slightly differently. Im just speaking from what I have seen with large age gaps esspesially at a young age. Its a safe way to not a have a younger guy/girl shattered if the relationship doesnt work, and a warning for anyone who is older if they dont want to put up with petty high school drama.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (15 December 2009):
 Hear Hear!!! Jolly well said!!!
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reader, CaliforniaGirl +, writes (15 December 2009):
Hey there :]
I agree with the whole 'maturity age gap' such as a 16 year old and a 20 year old because you do alot of growing up in that time ;D and yeah the molestation thing etc.. But I don't think it matters if you're 30 and you like someone 10 years older. Besides, as long as its not a sticky situation, what's the problem? If people want to date older or younger people, its their choice (as long, like i said, it's not going to trash everything) then its fine in my opinion. You can't go round saying people shall do this and that. I mean, there's isn't rules with who you have a relationship with =)
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