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writes:ok I like this boy named Bryan I barly met him and I barly know him yet, I find myself telling him I love him. He told me that he really likes me to so I asked him out. He said NO. So we went on being franns and now he wants to get closer but he still does not agree to go out with me. Why? I don't know I'm wondering if there's another girl?? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2009): It probably does not have anything to do with another girl.
Look at it from his perspective, you barely know him and you are telling him you Love him, pretty big word.....he knows you don't know him and that is way too much too soon, plus guys like to do the asking...and you are chasing him by asking him out and asking him out again when he said NO.
Leave the poor guy alone and be a F R I E N D (I don't know what franns means) and then once you two get to know each other better maybe he will want to spend some one on one time with you.
You probably have lots of other friends that you could spend time with so let him see that you are an independent young woman and enjoy your friends and your life and are not the type to be obsessed with just him....he will trust you and like you more if you do.
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reader, mrkhmcookie +, writes (8 April 2009):
ok, first things first, are you just saying you love him or do you actually love him?
if you think you love him but aren't sure than you should put saying it on hold for a while.
if you actually do love him than dont fear it, but just know that it might actually make him a bit uncomfortable.
I'd hate to ruin anything for you or crush your hopes but it sounds to me that this boy is either
a)intimmidated by the way you feel ("i love you" is shocking to hear sometimes, especially if you dont "love" the person back)
b)interested in another person MORE than he is into you (you might consider asking him to be completely honest with you)
c)not interested in you in that kinda way, and doesn't want to hurt your feelings (pretty much he's pity flirting)
d) since you like him so much he thinks he might get something out of you and is trying to convince you he cares about you but doesn't want to commit to you because he'd rather be available.
there ya go!
i hope this helps in some way!
:)
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reader, Original shiraz!  +, writes (7 April 2009):
People say the words i love you too much and sometimes it just dosent mean all that much. Next time dont jump in quite so soon and hes likely to be the one giving out compliments and moving forward. If hes said no then leave it a bit, remain as friends and work from there. Nobody can answer you why, some guys just freak at the idea of getting serious some guys have to be in control and some are just intimidated and afraid of love! Its a starnge way but it falls like that in life. Say yes you will be mates but obviously you wanted more, is there any hope in the future as you cannot go on with false promises.
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