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writes:I Really fancy this guy but I asked him if he was free and he said he has a girlfriend and that its "just fucken " with me "in a strictly plutonic". I was shocked by his response as I thought he really liked me as he had told me 2 months previous that he really liked me and he even asked me to call to his house , I declined as I was just after a breakup and needed time before I got involved with another, I am now ready but he no longer even wants to talk to me and just ignores me when he meets me . He told my other friend that he is in love with his new girlfriend, but he is only going out with the girl a week! Should I just forget him and move on? My friend said that she thinks he is still interested in me and that he allways asks for me and he even said he liked me in front of his new girlfriend!! I'm really confused. Help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2007): Hun, let's recap: he has a new gf-he told you he was just 'f**kin' with you, he doesn't want to talk to you now, he's basically ignoring you, he told a friend he was in love with his new gf and you still wonder if you should forget him and move on? Of course you should, dear. Listen..all males, no matter what age, find it challenging and very satisfying to go after a female they like. He's not actively pursuing you nor is he asking 'you' out...that is very clear here. So I suggest you stop pining away and leave this guy in the dust and move onto greener pastures. The more excuses you find to pursue him the more time you waste on a guy who has no intention of dating you. Leave this alone. Stop rationalizing that he likes you simply because he asked a friend about you. If he liked you in the way you want him to, he would be telling 'you' that, to your face and certainly not in front of his new gf. What type of guy says hurtful things like that in front of their gf, anyways? And realize, that if he doesn't want to date, then it's his loss. You are great for just who you are and some lucky will soon realize that. Stay positive, happy and get moving. Don't give this guy another thought...he's attached to another and females need to remember..we respect our fellow sister females and never, ever interfere in their relationships. Take care, sweety
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reader, AngelofLove  +, writes (8 March 2007):
 Get rid of him, he sounds like a player.
Be careful to give him more attention as he will hurt you even more.
He may be interested in entertaintement nothing more.
You need to find someone who is single and is more compatible.
It may be hard to accept but he is not that into you, if he was he would give you more respect and not going out with this other girl.
He is not worth your time.
Do you really want to be someone's toy for when they are bored?
Stand up for yourself and take control now. Be happy and go out to meet other people. Allow yourself the chance to meet someone new who deserves your attention.
Angel of Love
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reader, aunty t +, writes (8 March 2007):
 Why would you waste time on this guy. He clearly isnt interested in you or anyone but himself. Forget about him even if he was interested in you i wouldnt go near him he sounds like a real jerk. Find someone who will treat you with the respect you deserve
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reader, nicola79 +, writes (8 March 2007):
 I wouldnt waste anymore time on this person as he seems like a player and just wants to hurt you. I wouldnt run around after him, just get on with your life and enjoy your self.
I understand you are hurt by what he has done but wouldnt you rather know now? Find someone who wont play mind games with you and will respect you. I wish you all the best. xxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2007): I don't think this is all that confusing, the guy is a bit of a jerk, he is getting lots of female attention it sounds like, and if you want to stand out from the rest of them, then you should have shot him down when he said that rude thing to you, demand his respect and walk off.
Don't come round his house, make him work to win you over by phoning you for a real date...guys don't respect girls who are easy, and if he is saying he loves a girl after only one week then he is lying and playing her to get the sex he is after.
He doesn't sound so nice to me, but hey it is you decision if you like a guy who says he likes you in front of his girlfriend so he can get a cat fight going over him...this is true male entertainment.
He is a playing with your emotions, and he thinks you are going to work so hard to get him that he won't have to do anything at all to get you or any other girl he wants.
Don't play that game, you deserve better.
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reader, dollparts  +, writes (8 March 2007):
 move on!!!! thats the best thing you can do trust me you dont need to get mixed up with a guy like him by the sounds of it he wouldnt be that faithful
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2007): I hope you haven't had sex with this boy! He is playing head games with you, and not worth another minute of your time and energy.You are best advised to forget him and move on, no matter what he tells your friend. Let him get on with his new girlfriend; you have better "fish to fry"
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