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*hickie7545
writes:i feel as though i may have made the worst mistake in my life. i have been dating my boyfriend for a little over a year and i have never felt the way i do with him with anyone else and i have a ton of exboyfriends. i asked him to marry be because i was tired of waiting for him to ask me. he replied with " i don't know'. i now feel as though he doesn't care as much about me as i do him. a part of me feels that i should just leave him before i get hurt again. what should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, chickie7545 +, writes (29 March 2009):
chickie7545 is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni would like to thank guitarist and griffo for your respomses they make sense and help a lot so thank you. and i would also like tot hank both of you for not being rude while responding to my question. and uderstandidng that just because im young doesn't mean anything. so thanks
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reader, Ted-ster +, writes (29 March 2009):
You are far too young to even think about marriage! Only uneducated doo-dahs destined for a life of poverty and misery, with rare exceptions, get married before age 21 today. You change so much from 20 to 30. Let yourself grow, experience new things, get an education, travel in Europe or elsewhere. Of course your BF doesn't know about marrying you -- he's still a kid! The fact that he doesn't want to marry demonstrates he has some neron activity in his brain; don't let him go, and take a cue from him. Now have fun, and live, before you grow up too fast: Kids, a mortagage, a marriage can wait until you know yourself better, and learn more about the world.
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (29 March 2009):
 Yes, ask him why have a good chat about it and then make your decision from there.
Traditionally, as you know a guy asks a girl, but girls asking is on the increase. the good thing about that is it allows her to not beat around the bush with a guy who's really enjoying the sex and gives the girl weather or not she can have the true commitment from him. This allows her to be able to have a clear answer and if its no then she can move on. but please understand that simply because of tradition it may have confused him or made him feel a little uncomfortable thus him giving the answer "I don't know."
Hang in there for a while longer and ket him know you are happy to wait for an answer but not forever. keep a time frame that only you know in your heart for him to make the decision and if he hasn't by that time then you'll know exactly what to do.
I do have to say that is pretty romantic how you asked him, how sexy!
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reader, Guitarist  +, writes (29 March 2009):
 DONT LEAVE HIM!!! he probably just doesnt want to get married young. 'I don't know' is really much of an answer though... maybe you should just ask him why? i hear this all the time but COMMUNICATION is key to a successful relationship and if you dont know why he said what he said well, you're jumping to conclusions. i wouldn't think its because he doesn't love you.
not much help i'm afraid but seriously, just talk to him about it.
let me know what happens.
Take care. x
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