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writes:Ok i met this girl in march that i really like, im 33 and she is 26. She is a really nice girl, kind, considerate, caring, and is into the same sort of things i like. We have been out on 3 dates, the first two were just a drink, and the third was dinner. On the last date she said that she is going on holiday on her own to spain for a week, i felt abit sorry for her but never mentioned anything at the time. At the end of the night i took her home and she said we will certainly go out again soon then leaned over and kissed me on the cheek. Her going away on her own was really on my mind so i sent her an email on Tuesday saying" hope you are having a lovely day and that i need you thoughts on something". She sent back a lovely reply ending it with " what do you want to discuss, that sounds ominous:) That left things open for me, so in a nutshell i said do you want a companion when you go to spain. I left it with her and said think about it. i sent that on Tuesday at 5.00 and i have not heard anything yet. Its just we have been getting on so well up to now, is asking to go away with her enough for her to not want to see me anymore?. I know it was only Tuesday and she is probably mulling it over, but im really worried i may never see her again.thanks
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (15 May 2008):
 This is the sort of things that always make you feel unsure of what you did, I guess.
What you describe is a man with a serious interest in a girl. Someone who would want to be with her. She might not have seen things the same way. Women and men have different perspectives on things. I guess she thought three dates were too soon to be travelling with you. Saying "yes" is not what she wants, saying "no" would be bad. So things are left in indefinition. But this is my speculation.
I think all you can do, for better or worse, is to wait and see what she does. If she doesn't call you back, well, grin and bear it.
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reader, mylonleyself  +, writes (15 May 2008):
 Well probably she wanted to go by herself because she needs that alone time that we all need at some point in our lives. She will be back! Just wish her good luck, I bet if she wanted you to go she would've said something about it already or she would've asked you to come along.
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reader, honeyross +, writes (15 May 2008):
 She probably hasn't responded because she doesn't know how to say 'no'. She might need the time to herself - that's why she arranged to go away alone, probably.
I don't think she wouldn't want to see you again for that reason - most very keen guys would do the same. I'd leave it till tomorrow and then email to say something like: "Hope I didn't scare you off when I asked that question - it was a bit forward and I wasn't really thinking. I'd love to see you soon, though. Dinner?"
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2008): She's on holiday, she's not emigrated. She'll be back again. Like you said she's probably thinking things over, or hasn't had time to pick up her mail. I think you were very brave with your suggestion, and put it in such an elegant way that she couldn't take offence. Stop worrying she'll contact you and if she dosen't, she dosen't.
Your old enough to know what you want and make the decision to go after it. You've told her how you feel (good), she's got time on her hands to decide how she feels. You'll here from her soon.
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