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writes:i am young and i want to have sex with my boyfriends because i want to and he really wants to. Only i hear it is really painful and nasty the first time. I really need helpon what to do Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2009): I recently had sex with my boyfriend for the first time and was asking myself the same questions my boyfriend and I have been together for 5 months and have been discussing sex with each other for about 2 months. We are both 16 and felt ready and made sure we were both ready to commit to each other on a mental and physical level. I would recommend that you both talk with each other as much as possibly so that you both are ready for this huge step not just letting your hormones get the best of you. Don't do this for your boyfriend do it because you feel you are ready. I felt I was mature enough for this and feel no regret I love my boyfriend dearly and would not have changed a thing. Waiting is best you'll feel much better about yourself. Yes it'll probably hurt especially being young. Take things slow and make sure to use protection if you still feel you want to go ahead with it.
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reader, Princess_Glamm  +, writes (5 August 2008):
 i am in the same position as you.! i am 13 and have eben with my boyfriend for nearly 3 months but have known him for nearly a yera and i just dont no what to do.!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2008): If you have ever bitten into a green strawberry or peach, you will see why it's good to wait sometimes. At 10 or 12, your body and heart are just not ready and the experience will not be as nice as if you wait until you're older (at least 16.)
As for your boyfriend, if he truly loves you, he'll wait for you. If he doesn't respect you enough to wait, you will have regrets later to have lost your virginity to someone who wasn't your great love.
If you're still hell bent on having sex, please, at least, use a condom EVERY time you have sexual intercourse. Never use the same condom twice. Put the condom on after the penis is erect and before any contact is made between the penis and any part of the partner's body.
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reader, littlesuziepie +, writes (11 June 2008):
 I will tell you what I told my daughter. She is your age. 12.
I am glad your asking advise before you go and do anything.
Besides the hurt and emotion you will feel you must remember that one day when you get older you will want a wonderful man to love and have a family with. He won't want a girl that has had sex with lots of men because she started so young. He wants to think he is the only man that sharerd that special time with you. You should wait. Save it. If not for your husband save it for as long as you can.
Think of your body as a diamond and your to protect it and keep it shiny and clean. Lol
But really you wouldn't let just any boy come take a piece of that diamond would you? By the time you got to be older and give it to that one man your madly in love with and want a family with your diamond wouldn't be as big and beautiful anymore because so many have taken from it and used it.
There are allot of things that you can catch from having sex. Please keep your body protected and use protection all of the time.
Sex is meant for mature adults. So much comes along with it. Not just the sex part. If your doing it this young then you aren't going to expireance the true meaning of sex and love is a huge part. You could be hurting physically from the sex and feeling alone and afraid after you do it.
Boys your age really just want to do it and will say and do Almost anything. So please be picky and save your special parts for someone very special.
I wish you good luck and hope you take what I said to heart. Its all so true and one day you may regret giving in and doing this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2008): I just want to know whats your rush? you must be too young. your in doubt if you want to have sex. first you need to think about school your future and then sex. sex is something you commit with your husband not just a boyfriend. your boyfriend should communicate with you about waiting on sex. sex is a big step and it can be a huge step if you get pregnant. condoms aren't 100% protective. sex is not nasty and gross. sex is something special you do with your husband. loose your virginity to the person you marry and plan to have kids with.
don't rush yourself to sex and don't let be pressure to sex. you only know when you are ready and that time is not now. school and your plans to a better future for yourself and future children with the future husband that the lord will bless you with. just pray about it. take care. I hope this is helpful some way. adios
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reader, Gremma +, writes (11 June 2008):
Here is some good free advice. Young men have their body screamin' all sorts of things at them right now, and maybe for a long time. From 13-25 or longer, what their bodies what is more important than just about anything else. If they are asking you to do something for their body, it has absolutely nothing to do with their feelings about you. Someone who loves you asks what they can do to make you happy, take you to a movie, send you a beautiful card or poem, take a walk in the park and hold hands. Boys who only ask for themselves aren't using their brain or heart, they're using another part of their body. You seem like a bright young lady so I will speak to you like a womam. Point is, you were not put here to be his "toy" while these transformations happen. All people have stages of growth to go through in their life. What if you went through a perfectly normal growing stage that it gave you enormous pleasure if you could kick a boy in his shin at least three times day. Do you think you could get many volunteers who would let you do this? Would it even be right for you to ask? You have plenty of time. Soon you will either travel or visit relatives in another town and you will see that there are even more boys there. Shortly you will be looking into college and there will be an even bigger bunch of boys there. Don't limit yourself! What if the boy of your dreams is out there waiting for you? Sex does not expire, it's been around for thousands of years and I am quite certain it will be around for at least another thousand. But most important, you can make a bad decision right now that could follow you around for a long time, and keep you from meeting your dream fella. It really is true, having or not having sex is a grown-up decision. If you make a grown-up decision you need to be prepared for grown-up consequences, I made a decision to have sex, and the very first time I got pregnant. It does hurt, and since the boy is listening to that part of his body, he's not paying attention to you or if it hurts. This is part of why it for adults. Am adult man with an adult woman hecares about is concerned for her feelings, her fears, and whether or not it hurts. I missed some of the most special things of being young because I got pregnant. I even missed dating, because I only dated that one boy. When this happens, the girl gets the baby, and a future that is changed, and the boy's future is unaffected, his life goes on as planned. Didn't mean to get heavy about it, sorry. You need to realize that you determine how special you are not anyone else. By the time you get to college you may not even remember this silly boy. You'll remember a silly boy and thank your lucky stars that you didn't volunteer to be his "test model." Spend your time being 12, 13, 14 and so on, enjoy the fact that all you have to do right now is your homework and your chores. Once you are a grown-up you are for a very long time, going to your job everyday for 20-25 years with one vacation a year. Don't rush it. This is your time to watch what other people do (including grown-ups), and avoid their mistakes. Your heart is precious, fill it with laughter, good friends, and good memories.
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reader, Tremor  +, writes (11 June 2008):
 I'd advise you to wait awhile. Because you are so young, your body may not be ready for sex, and you yourself may not be emotionally or mentally mature enough.
Keep in mind that boyfriends come and go, but you only lose your virginity once.
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