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writes:I love a guy and hes with a good friend I practically hooked them up but the more time I spent hooking them up the more I fell in love with him. What do I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2008): I agree that you should be upfront with your girlfriend. If she's in love with this guy and wants you to butt out, just back away for both of them for a while. It's quite possible that the relationship will end on its own, and then the field will be clear for you -- PLUS you'll keep both your friends and your honor.
Yes, I know it's hard to move away from somebody when you're falling in love, but the truth is that it's easy to fall in love with people we spend a lot of time with (like you did when you were setting up the guy.) The less you see him, the less you'll keep falling for him. Meanwhile, be good to yourself, do things that you like to do, and socialize with other friends until you feel a little better.
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reader, pepper27  +, writes (11 June 2008):
 Oh hunny
Are they happy together? You got them together and now you really wish you hadnt these feeling must be awfull for you, I can understand, You dont no who your going to fall for love and when your helping someone out and getting to no that person then you do find out alot about that person in the time you spend with them..And you fell big time. All you can do is see how things go and even though your feeling this way if they are happy its going to be terribly hard explaining to this person how you feel now you have set him up with your friend, All I can say hunny is be very carefull you have two friends here and you could risk loosing both if they are truely happy with each other..Im so sorry for you pain and I do hope you feel better soon, This must be so very hurtfull for you PLEASE TAKE CARE OF YOU WITH LOVE AND HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, PeterPan +, writes (11 June 2008):
 You introduce a friend to this guy and as you've been setting them up you realize that you want him for yourself, is that right? Well, it seems to me that if your friend isn't being as responsive to him, then snatch him for yourself... if you want to be a friend (or rather, save the friendship that you have), then you might want to chat with you friend before making a move. Of course, the other part of this is if you think the guy is more responsive to you or your friend?
Good luck, but please tread lightly and be cautious of keeping the friendship you have!
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