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female
age
36-40,
*yrop
writes:I am very much in love with my cousin. i really want to make her mine but she says she does not love me. i tried all the way. first i winked at her ( it was before [proposing her) she just smiled away. is it because she is interested? or she took it as a joke?? i once grabbed her hand under the table when my other cousins and she was playing cards. first she struggled to let go of my hand then she smiled away. what does this mean? she was shy?. also, i once just pushed her towards the wall, i stared at her atleast for 10 sec. she did not say anything. i was about to kiss her she still did not move away. but i could not make my move as someone was knockking at the door. one day out of frustation i tried to rape her.( i just threw her on the bed) did not take out her clothes. i really loved her. she was crying. but then i stop since i did not want to hurrt her. i told her so. ever since she talked to me properly as if nothing has happened. i want to make her mine. what should i do please advice??.. she is presently single
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reader, person12345  +, writes (17 October 2010):
 No. If you really loved her you wouldn't try to rape her. You clearly don't respect her enough to not stop touching her when she struggles to pull her hand away, you clearly don't respect her enough to throw her on the bed and nearly rape her, and you don't even now respect her enough to walk away when you've scared her and she's saying no. You have to listen and accept her saying no to you. If you respected and loved her, you'd listen.
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reader, syrop +, writes (17 October 2010):
syrop is verified as being by the original poster of the questionbut that is actually the problem i really love her. i can't live without her. what if i try talking to her? would that work? am currently using one of my friend (female one) to get in touch with you guys. i have asked her too for her advice and she seems to be very confused. but according to her , talking to her in a cool manner and asking sorry pleasantly would perhaps work. will that really do?
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reader, person12345 +, writes (17 October 2010):
You must leave her alone. She's probably scared out of her mind of you because you tried to rape her. You need to just cut yourself out of her life and never touch her again. You can't just rape someone because you're attracted and they're not attracted back. It's so wrong on so many levels. What if some girl you absolutely weren't attracted to pinned you down on the bed and had sex with you? It's horrible and you would ruin her life. She clearly doesn't want anything to happen with you, so you need to leave her alone. Do not touch her again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2010): you need to leave your cousin alone. she is absolutely not interested. what you have tried doing (raping her) is wrong on every level. she is probably quite frightened by you and afraid to tell anyone what you have done and how you are persuing her. you are only going to create more problems by harrassing her further. move on to someone else!
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