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writes:Anyone with legal knowledge. Advice would help.Here's my situation:This is difficult to share.I am currently 23 years old. I live in Texas. When I was in my early teens, 14 actually, I was participating in a summer track league. We would compete in the AAU Junior Olympic Games. It was a program where kids under 18 would compete with other kids across the nation.I was sexually molested. We would spend a week where ever the event was hosted. In this case Ohio. My coach would invite certain kids into his hotel room. For pizza and soda. We had a fake muscle building show. We would flex our muscles and he would be the judge as to the winner. I developed rather fast physically and out of the boys there was definitely the most developed. Thinking back I was naturally chosen as the winner. Once the other boys left he was in his shorts and by "accident" dropped them. Then proceeded to tell me that since I had seen his I had to show him mine. It was only "fair".He started touching me in different parts of my body and i actually got an erection. But I didn't want too. It was like my body was acting on its own. At the time I didn't know what to think. I was just following his direction. This happened two or three times while we were there. I never told my parents. Never told anyone until now. I told my fiance. She was very understanding. Didn't judge me, didn't tell me what to do. Just listened.I found out a couple of years ago that he was convicted of sexually assaulting another boy. This was in 2002. I recently saw a show on tv about sexual molesters and I'm thinking of coming forward now. But I don't know if it's too late. Does anyone know what the statute of limitations is on this? Should I even bother to come forward now?The worst part about it is I'm a Federal Agent now. I work for the Department of Homeland Security. I know about federal law, but not state laws. Any advice is welcome but I really wish someone knows if I did come forward would it still be valid to charge him? Thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2010): I am the poster. Thank you for your advice.
I am doing ok thank God. I'm living a pretty normal life. But I just blocked out that whole part of my life.
Part of me just wants to be over it and forget it but the other part is upset with myself that I never came forward and said anything. I was too embarrased really.
I guess I will call and ask but I don't know if it's worth it. If they will only add a couple of months to his sentence it probably isn't worth it. I don't know. Thanks for the help though...
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2010): A person can't be tried for a crime that they committed more than 7 years prior.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (29 January 2010):
 I would find out the name of the prosecutor in his case and contact him. I don't know if they can add on to his sentence ( I'm not versed in law), but the reality is when someone like that creep of a coach molest children only a small % will come forward. If you come forward, maybe others will too.
I'm sorry you went though something like that, it breaks my heart.
/salute.
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (29 January 2010):
I would also commend you for wanting to take this step. You are doing the right thing. Perhaps the best thing would be for you to phone your local police precinct and ask about this. Or perhaps the police in the state where the event occurred? After you have heard about what the law says and if you decide to take it further, I recommend you speak to your parents and inform them so that they are not taken by surprise. This guy probably abused many others as well. I would also encourage you to find out about his case so that if he ever has a parole hearing you can try be there as a witness against his early release. I wish you all the best.
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (29 January 2010):
 Hun, I dont know anything about the laws in your country so I think that perhaps you need to chat to an attorney for advice.
I commend you for wanting to lay a charge against him, but are you ready for all the upheaval it will bring into your life?
If you do decide to go ahead with this, please let us know how you are progressing.
I admire you for what you are considering doing.
Honeygirl
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (29 January 2010):
Well it has to be worth a try. I don't know the law either, but here in Britain a murder committed in the '80's was just solved and the man was sent to jail. So it's worth a try.
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