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writes:I have always been attracted to guys and i always had relationships with guys. I used to always think if girls were cute or not, but i thought thats normal everyone does that. But lately especially since ive been at college (I'm 18), I have fantasies about girls and this one in particular i met. i dont think she is into girls but who knows. ive been having sexual feelings towards girls lately and im really confused, i think it may be my curiosity but i dont know what to do and i cant tell my friends..theyd be so surprised..and plus if i act on my feelings towards a girl i have no clue who likes girls or who likes boys. its so hard to tell especially at a college. so any help or advice on what i can do?? i feel so frustrated, thanks! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2009): Hey there, don't worry about having feelings for people of the same sex, its only natural. It usually is just curiosity and having a sexual relationship with another girl is probably a good idea at your age. I am now 26 and living with my boyfriend, however during my college days i did experiment with girls and quite liked it. I did come to realise however that i still needed a guy in my life for the sense of security and compassion you get from them. Its not quite the same with another girl, its really all about the foreplay ^.^
Another plus side, my boyfriend thinks its sexy that i've been with girls before and actually helped me pull him (the love of my life btw :P)
So, my view is definately try it on with some girls, but dont do it out in the open at college, wait until you're at a party or clubbing or something so if it all goes horribly wrong you can just blame it on the alcohol or pretend to not remember a thing :)
good luck and god bless my aspiring youngilng xxx
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reader, Johanna21 +, writes (22 September 2009):
 You'd be surprised how many girls are into other girls. I've met a couple that told me they were 100% straight but if a girl kissed them, they could melt like any gay / bi girl. That doesn't mean that all straight girls would react like this, but I'm just saying it so you don't give up hope.
Dropping hints is one way to know whether your girl would be interested in you. Possible hints would be renting a movie with lesbian characters and check her reaction. A more direct approach would be inserting a same-sex relationship into the conversation: it could be someone you know, a celebrity, you name it. An even more direct hint would be if you told her that you may be attracted to other girls but you are not sure. If she's interested go for it. Just lead the conversation to know more about gf. Maybe you'll get what you want.
Hope this helps
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