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writes:I am stuck in a dead end relationship. Trying to get out.I have two men that I know like me but I have problems moving the relationship on. I dont know what or how to do it.The first guy is my big boss but he is married so I have been avoiding him as I do not believe in breaking up relationships. I dont know much about his situation but he confided in me and told me that he had the snip. He could be like me, in a deadend relationship and not happy! I felt a little strange when he said that to me. I am a manager in education and he is the principal. When ever he sees me he is always staring at me and doubling taking.The second works for his families hairdressers and I go there regularly. I can tell by his body language that he likes me. I keep catching him staring at me.I dont know much about any of these guys and I do not really want to through myself at them. This is why my life cant move on as I find it hard to develop new relationships.I am a one man women and do not sleep around but I have given this relationship 10 years and I am not happy at all. I am approaching 50 and never married.I dont believe in internet dating or dating bureaus. I try to fill myself with lots on interesting things to do but there is so much one can do.Any advice welcome.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you both for your comments. I am happy to say that I saw the hairdresser over the week end and it is clear he is interested in me. I booked his sister to do my hair and he was demanding that he took over. Hi sister, who has trying to indirectly set me up with him, was being very hard and was curious as to why he was so interested in doing my hair. She goes "Oh you will do". I feel she embarassed him and he disappeared for a while. When I was about to leave. he reappeared and I said I will get him to do my hair next time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2010): Don't ever go for the married one, because then you're just gonna be a homewrecker, and he's obviously just a sick fuck trying to seduce you behind his wife's back by hinting that he can't get you pregnant while doing it. As far as the hairdresser... is he single? Go and tell him you want to get something started. This is one of those examples of how the one who's kind of quiet and not being a dog, with you, is the nice one you should go for, whereas the big mouth trying to impress you is just a cheating scumbag looking for a quick piece of ass to fill his time. You presented two guys and there's one here who seems worth dating. Go for it, what's the worst that can happen besides breaking up and starting over with another one. Start initiating, as you'll find better guys when you search for them, opposed to waiting for the 90% dirt bags to come and hit you up.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (3 March 2010):
Finish the relationship you're in, because you've given it ten years and you're not happy. Don't touch the married man. no matter what he says, what he does, remember he is married and isn't going to leave his wife. He's after nothing but fun and will just use you at his convenience. As for the guy at the hairdressers, get to know him more before you make any decisions. My advice is to just take your time over deciding what you want to do with your life, rather than dumping one guy only to take on another. Take your time.
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