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writes:I'm 18 years old and I think I'm in love with my friend and he's a guy. His name is Max. But the thing is, I have been a straight guy and even now I'm turned on by women. I am not attracted to any other guy apart from Max and the thought of being with another male is weird and awkward to me. Unless it's with Max. So what does that even mean?! This is really confusing! Reply to this Question
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reader, AvgGuy1 +, writes (7 July 2010):
 Given your last response... I would avoid telling him. I guess, this is just something you're going to have to work through. The only way you could even remotely broach the subject with him would be something like this:
U: Hey, you ever have any guy(s) come onto you?
Him: Eeew No. Why?
U: Eh, just some guy hit on me when I was at (the mall, gym, bar, party, whatever) the other day.
and then you can add or embellish with either...
He was really good looking but I just can't go that way.
OR
It just got me thinking it might be interesting to try... at least once.
But for the most part... I think you're better off letting it rest.
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reader, der_zyniker +, writes (4 July 2010):
Well if he is straight I don't see what good can come of it. I think that if he is straight telling him only has the potential to do damage and nothing else.
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reader, darren2040 +, writes (2 July 2010):
darren2040 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the replies! Well Max is straight and has always been. He's been friends with me since the beginning of high school so I guess he only sees me as a friend. But wow it is true that I admire him a lot. Though I think my feelings are a lot more than admiration at this point because I sometimes imagine having an intimate relationship with him. Do you think if I tell him I like him it'd destroy our friendship?
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reader, AvgGuy1 +, writes (2 July 2010):
Ditto what the anonymous reader wrote. You need to find out whether Max is straight... and then find out how he feels about you. Remember there's really no such thing as just gay or straight. People just have varying levels of both. I would venture that you are bisexual with mostly straight tendencies. Check out what the Wikipedia has to say about the Kinsey Scale. You'll see what I mean.
If you find that your friend is 'open' to a relationship and/or feels similarly about you... why not go with it? LET yourself love someone... even if it only turns out to be just a very strong friendship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2010): What i think is that maybe you admire your friend. There's always a fine line between like, love and admiration. You never attracted to other guys excepts Max, maybe you find somethings special from him. For example, you wish you have a charming personalities and Max has it. And you wish to be like him which is to have a great personality.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2010): Sounds like you are bisexual. Better find out whether Max goes for men too and then think about what you both want.
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