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writes:Hi everybody,my name is jay.I recently broke up with my gf who I have been with for 2 and a half years and engaged to for about a year. She is a mom of an awsome boy who is now 3, so I have been basically the step dad since he was 6 months old.I practicaly consider him my own even though his real dad is still in the picture, but only once a week.our relationship was amazing right from the start, we got engaged and everything was stilll the best I could ever imagine, but then as the economy was crashing my job as a home builder started tumbling down. money was getting tight, but we never lost anything (house, cars, ext.) stress levels were rising on my end. and I know I was bringing my stress home on a regular basis... but in the midst of my falling business she was offered a job as a manager at a restaurant that she was waitressing at. after we discussed all the perks of managing. she took the job, and along with the new career came more stress for her.this was basically the tipping point of everything.we no longer had our fun times together and we were just so busy in our own work. the only thing we could do together was wake up on saturday mornings together and have a family breakfast.then one day we had a little argument over next to nothing and that was it. she moved out and took my step son,I still love her and the boy, to the point that I am feeling sick to my stomach, it's been 3 weeks, and I have only seen him twice and he misses me lots. and I know she is feeling something but I just want to get back together. I am spinning my brains trying to find a way to get her back. what do i do?
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reader, Justlikeme32 +, writes (2 July 2010):
Oh my....well, have you tried talking with her? This is where you need to lay everything out on the table.....and I mean everything. She needs to know that you love her and your son and that they mean the world to you. You have to be able to take the good with the bad....but she has to be able to as well. You need to make sure you guys are on the same page. It's so easy to let work and stress get in the way of what is important, and maybe this was the eye opener you both needed. I hope things work out for you!
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (2 July 2010):
 Relationships are hard work aye! We all go through these stages in our relationships where stress is being brought home and we just don't make time for our love live anymore.
I guess the best option for you here would be to tell her you realise what a tosser you were being and how you regret not dropping your troubles at the door and how you would give anything for her to move back in with you and have another go. Tell her you love her and her little boy more than life itself and you just can't bear being seperated from them. Ask her to give you another go and stress that you know what you did wrong and will take great pains to ensure it doesn't happen again.
Good luck dude hope it works out for you. I would also never underestimate the power of flowers and chocolates to accompany your apology.
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reader, sweetsiepie  +, writes (2 July 2010):
 hey hunny this is a tough one well i think you both need to sit down and have an adult talk and you have to make time to have this talk you both need to tell each other how you feel and what you both want and maybe it will work from there theres always stress in every relationship and theres always busy times i hardly see my boyfriend that often because of our jobs but even if we make 2 hours a day for each other its enough because theres still that time hunny if you want it to work fight for them x
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